Monday, December 31, 2012

Monday, December 31

Got up this morning early to take the car in.  There is a cold rain falling.  The dog was not at all happy that I was leaving and just barked and whined something terrible.

Got the car done and went to get a breakfast sandwish at Mc Donald's and then made a trip to Hobby Lobby.  I wasn't looking for anything in particular but spent an hour just wandering around.  It was rather nice.  Didn't buy a thing.

Went to the local music store and picked up a check for Cowboy's Fender guitar that I had left there on consigment a few months back.  Netted $950.  They have a viola on consignment that I would love to have.  Messed around with it for a while and gave some thought to buying it but didn't do so.  Am thinking about it.  I think it might add a cool sound to our little band and I feel it is underpriced and could sell it later if didn't work out.  Am going to think about it.

I found Cowboy's Seiko watch yesterday and was going to get a battery for it but the jewelry store was closed until after the holiday.  The one I bought him needs some links removed and I don't know how to do that but was hoping to take him his Seiko and then get it sized and return it.

I got into a little bit a trouble with the home because I had allowed him to keep his wallet.  I had removed everything that I thought mattered (military ID, social security and medicare, etc.) but had left his drivers license just to make him feel better about being stripped of all the things he normally carried. 

He forgot about it and it went through the laundry at the home.  They told me I should not have let him have it and to take it home.  It had a whole $7.00 in it and nothing with his social security or anything but I apologized and brought it home, wet and limp and useless.  I try to let him retain some amount of sense of self but it just doesn't work too well.

Sunday, December 30, 2012

Sunday, December 30

I had planned to take the dog yesterday but got a call that Cowboy had fell and also had a cough and maybe a cold.  Headed on over without the dog. As usual he had not hurt himself when he fell but is really frustrates him.   The cough does seem different than the one he has had forever and he seems more "stopped up".  They ordered an xray and urinalsis and are keeping a close watch on him.  He doesn't seem very chipper today and slept most of the time I was there.

There was a shirt on his bed that did not belong to him to I looked through his closet and found two more shirts and two pair of pants that were not his.  The name on them started with the same three letters as his name but the rest of the name was completely different.  I suspect they take a quick look at the first couple of letters and that's how it happened.  I am sure it will sort itself out.

I called and checked on him last night and he was doing OK.

This morning I took the dog with me and made another visit.  He is not feeling well and seemed really out of it.  He had wet his bed and then the next time he needed to go to the bathroom it took two of the aides to help him get to the bathroom.  He seems weak.  He did not eat his lunch so they brought him some soup and juice and he drank a little of it.  They told me the xray and the other tests came back normal so they were giving him Claritin and some cough syrup.  I told them he has had this cough forever and also the post nasal drip but it does seem worse.

The dog was a real pain driving over today.  She barked and whined and wouldn't settle down.  She was so excited to see Cowboy and immediately got up on his lap. then she got back down and was barking and pacing around.  She didn't seem all that glad to be there.   Coming home she slept the whole way. 

I am taking the car in tomorrow morning for a part that had to be ordered.  A few weeks ago I clipped a fawn on the road and it knocked out a small grill that fits around the fog light. 

Talked to Cowboy's youngest daughter and she is planning on coming down on Wednesday and staying overnight.  It would be great if we could check him out but they won't allow that until after the first 30 days adjustment period.


Friday, December 28, 2012

Friday, December 28

It is still cold but today would have beautiful if the wind had not been blowing so much.

I went to see Cowboy yesterday for about 4 hours.  First, I went and got the oil changed on the car and then head over to see him.  He was in a good humor.  He just mostly watches TV but he had a fresh pair of clothes on and seemed OK.  I brought him a longer cord for the telephone and some pads for the bottom of his new recliner so it wouldn't move about.

He had smothered steak, scalloped potatoes, bread and butter, stewed tomatoes and mince meat pie for lunch.  I think he may gain some more weight on this kind of diet.  Made me feel very inadequate in my preparation of meals at home.  He ate every bite.  It smelled really good and he gave me a bit of the pie.  I am very impressed with the meals they serve.

This morning I packed up the car with some food and some clothes that I don't need and that he won't need and took them to a local charity.  I went looking for a twin size quilt for his bed.  Came up empty.  The only twin size things available seem to be for children.  Found several nice looking quilts but only in queen and king.  May decide to just reduce the size of the one he has.  Still thinking on that.

I also  bought some Christmas things for 70 and 80 % off and will pack them away for next year.  Went to WalMart and got some things and headed home.

Talked to a neighbor for a few minutes.  It is interesting how concerned everyone is with my being alone.  Although I have mentioned a few times that I have never been alone before I must  qualify that with some things.  When Cowboy was in the military he was often gone for weeks at a time and after he retired and went into retail he worked very long hours and I often didn't seem much of him.  And then my job required some travel and I spent a number of nights alone in motels when out of town.

I was really trying to say that this is different because he probably will never come home and I am looking at the rest of my life without a companion to share my bed and my days.  Many women do this and I know I am up to it but it is still unknown territory.

I am so grateful that Cowboy is adjusting so well to his new environment and seems quite content.  He is eating well, is cheerful and seems comfortable. in his new surroundings.  How can I wish for more?

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Thursday, December 27

I do better if I stay busy so I spent yesterday starting the task of going through Cowboy's drawers and seeing what needs to be cleaned out.  I have never been one to bother with his "stuff" and it was quite interesting to go through things.

He is not an organized man !  I found all kinds of stuff just dumped willy nilly.  Receipts and bits of paper from years ago, some rubber bands so old they fell apart as I picked them up, used hearing aid batteries, littel note pads, a whole box of pieces of Cross pens.  I was able to piece some together and came up with four complete ones.  Do they make Cross pens anymore?  I think every piece of dental stuff he has been given in the last 6 years were still in the drawer (floss, picks, etc).

I put all his belt buckles together, they were everywhere.  I cleaned up his collection of ties and eliminated some of them, washed his western ties.  Guess I can call it tidied up so can rotate some of his things to him over time.

I also pulled out his guns and knives.  I am thinking about distributing them to the kids.  Not sure.  I don't  much like guns and knives but he liked that sort of thing. 

Today I am up early.  Am taking the car in for service, going to find a longer telephone cord and then over to see Cowboy.

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Tuesday, December 25, Christmas

Yesterday I got up and went to the grocery store.  Tried to go early to avoid crowds.  Didn't work.  at 8AM the place was packed.

Had an offer from a friend to take a walk.  It was about 40 outside so bundled up and took off.  The dog had a great time.  She got to walk a good long while.  It was great to be out, not worry about getting back in 10 minutes and having someone to talk to.

I drove over to see Cowboy and took the dog with me.  She was very antsy going over and barked a lot.  When we got there she was so excited and just raced around and wanted to let everyone pet her.  We went to Cowboy's room and she jumped up on his knee and that was that.  For two hours we just enjoyed the dog and watched TV and visited. 

I decided to get Cowboy a telephone for his room.  That way I can call him every day and the kids can call when they want to.  I called the telephone company and it will be installed by Friday.

Didn't stay but about 3 hours, what with the dog.  Headed back.  The traffic was much lighter and not bad at all.  Hardly any "big rigs" today.  The dog layed down and slept most of the way back.

This morning I am packing up a telephone, a TV tray to put beside his chair and a picture of him for his door.

Probably will stay there most of the day today since it is Christmas.

Merry Christmas to everyone !!

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Sunday, December 23

Yesterday I got up at 7AM and started getting some things together.  I packed his walker, a quilt and pillows, a picture and plaque, a hammer, some hangers and put them in the car.

I returned the bracket to mount the TV (they won't allow it right now"), got a haircut, mailed some paperwork to the insurance company and headed over to see Cowboy.

When I arrived he was in his room watching TV, was dressed, had had breakfast and was in a good mood.  I worked on putting everything up and away and then we watched TV.  The kids came and we had a little Christmas exchange.  He asked us all to leave at 8PM.  Said he was tired.

The traffic was terrible both going and coming home.  Arrived home tired and a bit stressed.  By the time I got relaxed and got the dog relaxed it was 11.  Our pup is really wondering what is going on and spent some of day today pouting and staying under the bed.  I took her for a walk and I think that helped.  She and Cowboy are such a pair.  I think she is really feeling sad and confused.

I slept in this morning.  It was great.  Spent the day cancelling his prescriptions, doing laundry, reorganizing the pantry and pulling some things out that I won't use plus reading the Sunday paper.

 Have a donation for the local food pantry and a clothing donation as well.  I feel a need to get things a bit organized but also a need to just decompress.  Hopefully can do both. 

I really wished I could have called Cowboy today.  I may consider putting a telephone in his room.

Friday, December 21, 2012

Friday, December 21

First day of winter, shortest day of the year, end of the Mayan calendar.  Shouldn't be hard to remember this date.  But the reason I will remember is because this is the day that Cowboy was checked into a home.

Yesterday we slept in a little, had breakfast and then went to Best Buy and Cowboy picked out a TV.  It is a 32 inch LG.  Should be a dependable one.  The rest of the day I spent getting his things gathered up and all his clothes labeled and things in the car ready to go.

We got up this morning at 7AM and started over at 8:45.  That gave him lots of time to eat and get ready.  When we got out to the car, he walked out to the driveway and looked all around and then he came got in the car.  After we had been on the road a few minutes I noticed tears in his eyes.  I took his hand and held it as we drove down the highway at 75 MPH but after a few minutes he was OK.

I dropped by the furniture store and paid to have the recliner delivered and they will do that today.

We spent about 1 and 1/2 hours with the business manager and the social worker.  There was lots of paperwork plus going over the rules and expectations, etc.  He had to sign some of the papers but since I have a power of attorney I signed most of them.

We then went to the memory unit just in time for lunch.  They sat him down with 3 other fellows and I hung out at the nurses station talking to the staff.  When he was through he came over and said "That was pretty good catfish".

We spent some time putting his things away and then I told him I was going to get some lunch and I left and went to Target and bought him a cheap watch and a shelving unit for the bathroom.

When I got back the recliner was in place, the TV was hooked up and he was watching an episode of "Walker, Texas Ranger".  He seemed fine.  I stayed and watched TV with him for a period of time and then told him I was going home after I went by the business office and set up his little petty cash account and paid for December.  He said OK, kissed me goodbye and I left.

The expressway was very crowded, what with this being the beginning of the Christmas holiday for lots of people.

Am home now and very tired.  While I was driving home my daughter called and she and two of her grown sons are coming down tomorrow in the afternoon.  I am going to spend the morning tidying up, doing a little laundry and putting some things together for Cowboy.  This will include a quilt, a fluffy pillow, some hangers, a TV tray,  his walker.  I am forgetting some things right this minute but hopefully will remember them before in the morning.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Wednesday, December 19

We got up this morning, had a good breakfast and drove to the nursing home.  Got there about 10 minutes early but didn't have to wait at all.  Had an interview with a social worker, the head of nursing and a tour by the business manager.  We got to see the room.  It has a complete bath but I was assured he would always have an aide to help with his bath.

Cowboy got really shaky about half way down the hall on the tour so we got him a wheelchair and rolled him around.  The room is very nice, not a bad size and appears to have enough storage.

It was suggested we not bring anything valuable because sometimes things disappear.  They have even had TV's removed.

There is a nice outside area that is secure and the dog is welcome, but need to bring her papers for them.

I then took Cowboy to lunch at Cracker Barrel.  As we were coming out he got weak again so I was helping him to the car.  A lady saw us and came over and took his arm.  I went ahead to get the car open and he was about to fall.  A man saw us and came over to help.  Between him and the lady they were trying to move him along much faster than he can walk and ended up kind of dragging him.  I suggested they slow down and we got him to the car.  Time to go home.

Got a call about 4PM that everything was approved and we made an appointment for 10AM on Friday to do the paperwork and check him in.

I called the girls and let them know.  Then I got a call from one of the grandsons.  He was so sweet.  He was worried that we had "checked this place out really well".  and then he wanted to talk about whether I would be OK alone.  I think I made him feel better.  I told him I have a lovely home in a lovely and very safe area, lots of friends and can fill my time, lots of it just visiting Cowboy so not to worry about me.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Tuesday, December 18

I forgot the funniest thing that happened yesterday.  I had a handful of mail to drop off and wanted to use the box because there were some checks in them.  Got to the mailbox and there was this car parked there.  Next I saw a lady at the back of the car in houseshoes and a very flimsy rode and gown on.  Her hair was sticking up all over.

She walks over to my car and about that time I see another lady similarly dressed come around the corner of the car.  She tells me the mailbox is overflowing and they were going to go find another one.  Did I want to give them my mail?  Nice gesture but no thanks.  I was really needing to get going so I drove off.  (amazing and it was a bit chilly out)  It was about 9:15AM.

This morning I took Cowboy and got him a haircut.  We then drove to the town where the nursing facility was.  It was clear blue skies today with an expected high of 80 so a perfect day to get him out for a drive.  I needed to try to find a recliner for him.

We went to a furniture store going out of business on mail street.  He wanted to go in and look so in we went.  There were ramps everywhere but he did OK.  He insisted on leather, as always, and I picked out a nice taupe one that I thought would work with any decor.  He didn't like it.  He found another that was kind of dark brownish burgundy.  Both were very nice and marked off about 70% so we got a really good deal.  It was a nice store.  Too bad.  Looked like their store was one of the anchor stores on the main street of town.  I think Rooms to Go may be taking over the world and their stuff is mostly made in China.

On the way home, got a call from the Dr. and told to pick up the fax I had dropped off.  Then the home called and said the history and physical was from June and would not do.  Need the current one.  She told me if we don't get this done this week it will be after the first of the year.  Not sure why but got the impression everyone that approves anything must be taking the holiday off.  She asked me to get one from Friday and asked if we could come tomorrow for an interview and to bring it with us.
We stopped back by the Dr. office and I got it done.

Left this morning at 8:30.  Got home at 3.  Cowboy is tired.  Still haven't bought a laundry marking pen.


Monday, December 17, 2012

Monday, December 17

I am thinking I will laugh about today later, but it was just frustrating today.

I changed my day out to today and had to get up at 6:30.  I had agreed with the nurse would drop off the papers right after 8AM.  Tracey arrived as expected.   My first stop was to drop off the corrected paperwork to the Dr.'s nurse.  They couldn't find her for a period of time but finally got with her.  She said she would call me after the fax was sent.  Never got a call all day.

Went to get a quick breakfast at McDonald's and that went OK.  Next stop was for gas.  The pump said had to pay inside.  Cold out and I had no coat but went in and left my credit card.  Then the pump dribbled the gas out veerrry slowly.  Finally got it going after stopping and starting the flow about 5 times.  Got my card and then realized I really needed to go to the bathroom. It was busy and I was late so left.

Drove to the meeting place to meet the dulcimer group for a gig.  Nearly didn't get there and was about to pee in my britches.  Made that and went on to the gig.  We played at a senior community center and it went well.  The old folks really appreciate the old Christmas carols.

I then made a quick run to the grocery store and got home just in time.  Felt like I had been in a dead run all day.  Got some stamps so can finish my cards tonight.

Lots of nice people have sent emails and called me.  and I got to talk to the dulcimer group a little bit. It all helps.

Cowboy was doing only fair today.  He seemed tired and when I got him in to bathe him tonight he could barely walk.   Before that he was in the kitchen and kind of stumbled forward into the refrigerator but caught himself.    We got him all covered with cream and to bed.

I am going to take him tomorrow for a haircut and then depending on things may try to find a recliner.

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Saturday, December 15

A while back I bought some little "deodorant balls" to put in Cowboy's shoes when he wasn't wearing them to absorb odors.

Yesterday he was complaing that he had a toenail hurting him.  I asked him if maybe he had not removed the ball.  He said that was not it.  I suggested he humor me, I took off his shoe and sure enough it was stuffed down in the toe area of his shoe.  Problem solved.  He is almost always sure I don't know what I am talking about.  (and I almost always do)

I told him this week that couldn't find the key that he carried in his pocket.  He said it was a house key.  I told him, no it was a car key.  We have had this discussion a few times already but I would like to locate the key.  He said he had put it away for safekeeping and refused to tell me where it was.  He continues to insist it is a house key.  I suspect someday I will find it.

I fixed Cowboy blueberry pancakes and breakfast sausages this morning.  This is probably his very favorite breakfast.  It makes me feel good to do something for him that he likes.

I still have not bought a laundry marker and must do that tomorrow and get his clothes marked. 

I got laundry done today and pretty much finished up our cards.  We don't get near as many as we used to.  Have received several ecards.  Guess that is the way things are going.

It is so warm for this time of year.  About 70 today. 

Friday, December 14, 2012

Friday, December 15

We have been watching the coverage all day of the terrible shooting in Conn.  It just breaks my heart.
I cannot imagine how any parent could ever forgive someone just coming into their child's school and gunning innocent children down.

On Wednesday I had my day out.  Did a little shopping and then met 7 friends for lunch.  Then we went to one of the ladies house and had dessert.  Talk about blowing one's calorie count.  Great time.

Yesterday I took Cowboy to the dentist and got his teeth cleaned.  He does very well at these appointments at this point.

Today was hard.  I had forgotten about the ladies coffee and had no one to stay with Cowboy.  Just down the street so went for just a few minutes and left Cowboy to watch "The Price is Right".  Brought him back some food.  At least got to tell all my neighborhood ladies Merry Christmas.

This afternoon I asked Cowboy to sit down and sign the paperwork that has to go to the nursing home and the insurance company.  He kept asking questions and I answered them all honestly.  I asked him a couple of times if he was understanding what I was telling him.  He said yes.  When I gave him some of the papers and asked him to sign he read it over and over but wouldn't sign it.  He was very quiet.  I suggested we do it later, it was time to go to the doctor.

I went over everything that was happening on the way to the doctor.  While we were in the doctor's office he began to cry.  I think I have seen him cry maybe 4 times in the last 36 years.  I told him I was sad too and I started to cry.  When the doctor came in he could tell this was going on.  He assured Cowboy that he would love the home, make friends, have lots of conversations, etc.  Cowboy just sat there and didn't say anything.  I told Cowboy that he would be the highest ranking soldier there and the doctor told him that a private room was worth grabbing because I could stay with him all I wanted.  I also told him the dog could visit.  We got through it and the paperwork got faxed and we headed home.

After we got home I discovered some errors on the forms and called the Dr.  Need to run it by to them Monday AM and get the corrections made.

I feel so tired.  Glad nothing I need to do tomorrow except stay home and get a few piles reduced.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Tuesday, December 11

Got a call this morning from the home.  She said not to drive up to fill out paperwork for his VA medical records.  We can do that later.  The important thing is the records from the primary care physician.  I told her we would see him on Friday and she requested that we have him fax the information.  They can review it next week and may be able to check him in by the end of the week.

I had not thought it would be so soon.  Feel a bit out of it.  Wait ! Slow down !

I guess sometime next week we will be taking Cowboy over and doing a ton of paperwork and getting him checked in.

I have asked to put his name in his clothes for laundry.  We will need to bring him an easy chair and a TV and things to dress up the room.

There are things here at home that I have been dawdling around about, like getting my Christmas cards out. Wrapping gifts.   Better get with the program.  (I usually have them out right after Thanksgiving.)

I have a headache.

Monday, December 10, 2012

Monday, December 10

Saturday was one of those rare days that I didn't get up til about 8:30.  It was lovely.  Even the dog stayed in bed.  Cowboy didn't get up til 10.  We had a late breakfast, we will call it brunch.

I called the kids Sunday.  Talked to all but one of them.  They now know that we are looking into getting Cowboy into the home fairly soon.  There is sadness and some frustration because it wasn't planned for quite so soon.  After thinking about having the private room I cannot imagine not going ahead to give him the best situation for him.

This morning we got up and took Cowboy to have blood drawn.  Then I took him to McDonalds and then to CVS to pick up some things.  I was going to go to the grocery for a couple of things but I just didn't want to worry with Cowboy.

This afternoon the band met and we played Christmas music for awhile and then had wine and appetizers.  Very nice time.  I made deviled eggs, chips and dip, meatballs and the others brought some food.   I am still working on the wine.

We are going to try to go get Cowboy's VA medical records tomorrow. 

It has turned really cold so I put the pansies and our succulents up close to the house.  Am going to try to find something to cover them here in a bit.

Cowboy sat at the table with us and ate some of the food.  It is serving as our supper. 

Friday, December 7, 2012

Friday, December 7

I got Cowboy up this morning and we drove to the VA clinic to try to get his medical records.  Was told we need to go to the larger office in another town about 40 minutes away.   Will have to plan to do that on another day.

I took Cowboy to IHOP.  We were seated right next to a large group of high school kids who were extremely noisy and couldn't even hear outselves think.  and it took awhile to get our food.  It was the most unpleasant visit to IHOP have ever had.

Came home and kind of relaxed.  Tonight a player in the dulcimer group picked Cowboy and me up which really helped a lot.  We played for two hours at the local history museum.  The whole downtown was lit up and all the stores were open and lots of people about.  The temperature was in the 60's and it was a lovely night.  I was really tired by the time we finished and my hand hurt something fierce.  Just can't do 2 hours very easily.  It went really well, lots of traffic and a nice night. 

Cowboy was really tired when we got home and he went right to bed.  It was about 8:30 I think.

I am kind of wound up but plan to go to bed soon.  Watched "Blue Bloods", one of my favorite shows, checked email and am sitting here looking at about 5 piles of stuff.  I keep trying to get organized and keep coming up short. 

Tomorrow we can sleep as long as we want and I plan to do laundry.  Need to get with the kids and figure out Christmas plans.  I don't know what they need to look like given the new information I got this week.  But we do need to talk.

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Thursday, December 6

Have been working on my "to do list" this week.  Have edited the Christmas card list, handled a pile of mail. etc/  Spent 44 minutes on hold with VA over getting check set up direct deposit, only to be told to go on the web, print off a form, fill it out and mail it in.  Only way to handle since I am a "payee" for Cowboy.  Good old paperwork in someone's inbasket.  So modern and efficient, don't you think?

Had my day out yesterday.   Went to the Bed, Bath and Beyond looking for a parafin bath for my; hands.  They didn't have it but ordered it for me so will have in a few days.  Went to mall.  Always try to do that at least once during the holiday season just to soak up some atmosphere.  Got as far as Macy's and the food court and realized had to go so had time to buy groceries.

Today I got a call from the home.  They have a private room available but must act quickly to secure it for Cowboy.  May be months, even years before one becomes available again.  I really think Cowboy will be much happier in a private room.  He is not a social person and may be stressed sharing a space with someone not of his choosing.  I called and moved up his doctor's appointment and labs.  We have to get all the paperwork to them ASAP.

I called Blue Cross about our long term care insurance.  A private room will run about $1500 more than what the VA will pay for but the insurance will cover the difference.  I would have sworn they told me about $500 more when I was in there a few months back but apparently I was wrong.  I will have to front the first three months and then should have things covered. 

About the time I finished doing those things I just broke down.  I was crying and couldn't stop.  It just kind of reaches up and grabs me sometimes.  I called a friend who came down and I had a drink and just talked for while.  It helped a lot. 

Cowboy got up this morning about 2AM.  I realized it when I heard the TV blaring.  He couldn't get the channels changed and just kept upping the volume.  I came into the living room and he said "Good morning !".  He was dressed and thought it was time to be up.  I managed to coax him to go to the front room, set the TV for him,  gave him a blanket and went back to bed.  Like to have never gone back to sleep.  Later I hear the TV in the living room again.  Thankfully it was about 7AM so I got up and fixed coffee, etc. He didn't seem to have any idea he had been up for 5 hours.

Monday, December 3, 2012

Monday, December 3

I am falling behind again on my blogging.  Sorry about that.

I saw the Doctor on Friday about my hand.  It is just arthritis.  I was given a regimen of Alleve twice a day, a hot parafin bath every morning, a cream at night.  and then she said  "If it hurts just don't do it".  Well that doesn't work if someone wants to play the fiddle but will try to limit myself.   Of course, nearly everything hurts but I am going to try to follow the directions as much as possible.   If after 3 months this regimen hasn't helped then we will try shots.  If that doesn't work, then surgery (couldn't do that right now anyway while caring for Cowboy).  I have high hopes we can get it feeling better without that kind of thing.

There was a neighborhood party Sunday night.  We had 83 people there.  It was probably the nicest party they have had.  I contributed by making dip and calling table numbers.  Cowboy sat in a corner and enjoyed lots of folks coming over and talking to him.  He ate a good meal too.

Am going around with the  VA pay office about our receiving a check rather than direct deposit.  The government will no longer issue checks after March.  Of course, they messed up and started sending them in the first place.  Sat on hold for about 20 minutes and then was referred to a different number.  Every time I called it I got the message about being in the que but then I would get cut off.  Happened three times.  Guess will try later in the week.

Tonight was Bunco.  The friend who hosted it this month sent her hubby over to our house and we ordered Cowboy and Jack a pizza. 

The VA home calledlate today and asked me to get Cowboy's medical records and a summary report from the doctor and send it to them.   Will try to get into that tomorrow.

Time for bed.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Wednesday, November 28

I have to wonder if there is someone somewhere who is studying and analyzing the behaviors associated with Lewy Body dementia.  How is it the same as Alheimers?  How is it different?

Cowboy got up Sunday morning and took a bath and put on a nice red shirt and added his most expensive, most elaborate bolo tie.  It is a heavy silver with several turqoise  and coral stones and a bear claw.  Probably worth around $600.  He put up so tight on his neck was afraid he would choke.  He had not had it on in probably 3 years.

We went to McDonalds and to the grocery store with him rather dressed up.  If it makes him happy, I am happy.

He wore it on Monday and then on Tuesday he added a belt buckle of similar type and worth.  He has been wearing both since.  I asked him this morning if he was going somewhere and he said "yes" but couldn't tell me where.  There were no plans for him to go out today.

Tracey came this morning.  I am finding that 9 to 3 is more time than I can normally fill.  Am thinking about cutting it down to 5 hours instead of 6 beginning with the new year.  That would reduce my cost by $70 a month without really reducing the amount of time I normally need to get everything done.  Could always increase when I need to.  I am seldom ready when Tracy gets here.  Am still fixing breakfast and getting ready to go out.  I might make that change.

I have a neighbor coming Saturday morning so I can go to dulcimer practice.  Am thinking I will buy all my helpers a nice bottle of wine before Christmas.

I concentrated today on getting my pedicure, the car washed, and made a trip to Academy Sports looking for a fire extinguisher, a flashlight, a wind up radio and a pocket knife for our emergency kit.  Not much luck but did come home with an industtrial flashlight.

Went to WalMart and got some groceries.  Was home at 2:15.

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Tuesday, November 26

It's been strange few days.  Cowboy has done a lot of wandering.  I took the dog for a walk yesterday for about 15 minutes and when I came back he was down the street just walking along, looking for me.

Today I went to pick up some plastic bags at the city for recycling and when I got back to the car he was no where to be found.  I nearly panicked.  I looked all over and finally went back into the building where I had been and asked and they said he had come through there so I found him back out near the front door.  He was looking for me again.

We also went over and dropped off food for the local food bank, got gas and took some books to the library.    He stayed in the car but I was only gone about 1 or 2 minutes.

For a long time, I could do a quick errand and leave him in the car and he would be there when I got back.  Guess that is changing. 

I took Cowboy to McDonalds Sunday and then to the grocery store with me.  He didn't even want to walk around so I put him on a bench near the restrooms and dashed around.  This is not working very well anymore.  I just worry he will get up and wander off.

Tomorrow is my day out.  I am going to gather supplies to update our emergency kit and get a pedicure.  Not sure what else.

Friday, November 23, 2012

Friday, November 23rd

Tuesday we took the dog to the groomer.  She was a bit of a mess from being sick.  I tried to keep her clean  but she still had this pink around her mouth from the pepto bismol.  Thank goodness she is all better.

Cowboy got a haircut.  I don't know what he told the barber but it appears he is trying to grow his hair out a bit.  At the moment it is sticking up all over his head, sort of like some of these young guys wear it.

I had my day out Wednesday.  There was no way I was going to brave the grocery store.  I went to Office Depot and got a calculator and mouse pad.  I had a combination one but it hasn't worked since my accountant daughter was here and used it.  (are you taking note, dear?)  Probably was on the edge and she sent it over.  I had it a long time.

Went to Michaels and found some things on half price.  Gee, it isn't even Thanksgiving yet.  I am going to do a greatly pared down Christmas decor this year.  Just don't have it in me to get all the stuff out.  Between my hand hurting and my neck and arm hurting and just hurting in general everywhere it just isn't going to happen.  I bought a really small tree and some really small ornaments to put on the bar.  Shouldn't take more than 10 minutes to decorate.

We are doing a dulcimer concert at the library next month and went looking for a Christmas shirt to wear.  Came up empty.  Not a big deal.  I have a couple of them in my drawer.  Thought something new would be nice but not a biggy.

We heard from all the daughters and some of the grown grandchildren yesterday.  We had been invited up but opted not to go.

I cooked some cornish hen, stuffing, sweet potatoes, relish and pumpkin pie.  Cowboy ate pretty well.  He even ate some of the stuffing and the last time I prepared it he wouldn't touch it.  I never know.

At one point yesterday I mentioned my little tree didn't have any lights.  Just a comment.  In a few  minutes Cowboy asked me where my car keys were.  I told him they were in my purse, but why did he want to know.  He didn't answer me, just went and got them.  He then stood in the kitchen taking the keys off the keyring.  I asked him what he was doing and he told me he was going to fix me some lights for the tree.  Very interesting they ways his brain doesn't work.  I just never know what he is going to say or try to do.   I explained to him I didn't want any lights and took the keys from him.

Cowboy said he was tired and went to bed last night about 7:30.  I tucked him in and caught up on my recorded programs.

We are having a quiet day today.  I am catching up on some correspodence.  Started tinkering with some of the Christmas decor.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Monday, November 19

Other than getting medicine down the dog, which she doesn't like at all, we have had a quiet couple of days. 

I took Cowboy with me to the grocery store Sunday morning.  It was about 11AM.  The place was a madhouse.  Of course, Cowboy immediately decided he needed to use the bathroom.  I got him there and then sat him down on a bench and dashed about the store and got a few things. 

Today the cleaning crew came and got the floors done.  This afternoon I prepared some food and we had some neighbors over to celebrate the new patio.  We had wine, devilled eggs, cocktail weinies and the usual dips and veggies, chips, etc.  A nice time.  I think it is good for Cowboy to have interaction with folks and about the only way to accomplish it is to have people in or to take him out and that is getting more and more difficult.

I guess it is time to get started on Christmas stuff.  Need to up the outdoor things this week and go through and make sure have everything I need.  Am going to keep it pretty low key and simple this year.

Grandson called today about our coming to their house for Thanksgiving but we have decided not to make the trip.  Just don't think either one of us is up to it.  Three hours each way, heavy traffic, the early shopping traffic getting home.  Not worth it.  Will miss seeing the little ones.  He tells me they will come down between now and Christmas. 

Tomorrow morning I am taking the dog to the groomer and Cowboy to the barber shop. 

Friday, November 16, 2012

Friday, November 16

On my day out on Wednesday I went and got groceries and brought them back and then a friend picked me up and we went to a new place for lunch and then checked out some gift shops and an art and frame shop.  A good relaxing time.

Wednesday afternoon our dog started throwing up and that was followed by diarrhea which turned into a bloody mess.  By the time it reached the stage that we were concerned it was after vet office hours so we took her to the all night animal hospital in a neighboring town.  It was probably about 8 when we got there and about 10 when we got home.  Way past Cowboy's bedtime.  We were both exhausted.  Turned out to be colitis which means medication, bland food and pepto for a few days.  What a mess it has been to clean up after her. 

When bedtime came she wanted on the bed and I wasn't big on that but finally got an old quilt and put her up next to me and she settled down and slept.  Later she wanted up and a bit later I put her on the quilt next to the bed.  Long exhausting night.  Cowboy just slept through it all.

Yesterday the band played for an appreciation luncheon for the volunteers of one of the dementia day care groups here locally.  They invited us to have lunch and then to play for them.  It was at a local country club.  A friend sat with Cowboy and I did the luncheon and gig.  It was a good experience.

This morning we drove to Lowe's to get the correct size toilet seat for the handyman to install tomorrow.  He came last night and I learned I had bought the wrong one.  I also learned our electrical stuff is a mess.  Our water softener was on a circuit that trips and it had not been working since we had the patio built and the workmen tripped it with their tools.  Now need to get all of that straightened out.  There are times I really wish I had a better grasp of all of these "man jobs" that Cowboy always took care of.

The dog is much better now but still not 100%.  I am quite sure it resulted from all the things Cowboy feeds her that he shouldn't.  I am just going to have to get mean about it I guess.

Monday, November 12, 2012

Monday, November 12

We had an uneventful weekend.  I have been puttering around the house quite a bit, doing little projects.

I actually took a nap today.  I am not sleeping well and guess I needed it.  As long can watch the shows he likes and stay engaged he does pretty well but I still worry when I am not right there.

I told him I bought a lock for the patio gate so our pup could not get out and he liked that idea and actuallty took part in getting it on the gate.  I have been asked if I think he might climb over but I really don't think so.  It is a ways down.

I invited some neighbors over next Monday to "christen" our patio.  Am looking forward to focusing on something positive and hope the weather cooperates.  Will fix some appetizers and serve wine.  Nothing too complicated.

Cowboy's oldest called us yesterday to commenmorate Veterans Day.  That was nice.  They plan to come down for his birthday in April.

I fixed Cowboy barbequed chicken and baked beans tonight and it is time for dinner.

Friday, November 9, 2012

Friday, November 9

Cowboy seems to be claiming the patio for himself.  He has rearranged the pillows, the pots, etc.  He decided every table needs a pot so we went back to the store for more soil and located some pots in the garage.  I watched him tenderly handle each flower as he put them in the pots and then he instructed me where to put them.  He is really taking an interest and it is great to see.  He is so apathetic about so many things now.

I saw him out there yesterday sitting on the couch and holding a pillow in his lap trying to decide where it should go.  (this is a fellow that has always disliked pillows and complained about them)

He also decided we needed to go downtown to get his watch fixed.  I asked him where downtown and he said where we bought the watch.  I bought him the watch in Branson, Mo several years ago and I explained that to him and then went to a jeweler who got it set for him.  He was very patient with Cowboy explaining the watch.  It is very complicated.  It has a regular analog time, a military time, a day and a year on all these little dials.  He picked it out, not me.

Today we go play a gig at an Alzheimer's Day Care.  I am taking Cowboy and then maybe we will go find him a nice hamburger.

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Wednesday, November 7

Yesterday after breakfast Cowboy wanted more coffee.  Shortly he was cussin' and yelling and I discovered he has spilled a complete cup of coffee on him, the chair, the rug and the tile floor.   We got it all cleaned up and a new cup of coffee for him but I had a bit of mess on the new rug.  Fortunately it is brown so I am thinking we may have a minimal visible issue.  Will have to arrange to have it cleaned but I think we got a good deal of it up.  I could tell he felt a bit bad about the whole thing.

We went so I could vote in the PM and then we went to Lowe's and bought some pansies.  I let him take the lead and he picked all yellow with purple centers.  He had said he wanted 4 plants in each of 3 pots which is 12 plants but then insisted we buy  two flats which is 24 plants.

It turned into a lovely afternoon.  The weather was beautiful, he was really into planting the pansies and I let him do the whole job.  He seemed to really enjoy the whole thing and we now have 3 large pots with 4 pansies in each pot on our patio.  I don't know what we are going to do with the rest of them.

Today Tracy came and I had my day out.  I went and got some things at the drug store, then went to Kohl's to see what I could spend a 30% off coupon on.  Couldn't find much, but did buy a holiday guest towel and some little clear glass angels that light up with different colors.  I seem to be drawn to angels this year.

I went to Bed, Bath and Beyond with a 20% off coupon but didn't come up with anything.  Don't seem to be into shopping today.

I had seen a really pretty lighted angel for outdoor Christmas decor at Garden Ridge so went back and bought it.  Most of what we had was thrown away last year.  Two reasons:  it was in poor condition and I  couldn't do the set up by myself.  I think I can set the angel up by myself without difficulty.

I then treated myself to lunch at Applebee's .  They have a lunch of soup and salad that is smaller portions and is very tasty.  It seems strange to go into a sit down restaurant alone but I enjoyed the lunch.

Back to town and to the grocery store and then home. 

Cowboy asked me about his watch (which I had kind of forgotten about) and was upset that I had not taken it "downtown" to have it repaired.  I apologized and promised we would take it Friday.  I have a gig Friday at 11 and am thinking we will take the watch to a jeweler after that. 

Talked to our youngest daughter last night and invited them for Thanksgiving  but she has to work the day after (German company, different rules).

Today I talked to one of our grandsons but they are expecting company  and invited us up there.  I am not really sure Cowboy could handle a three hour each way trip to their place, so guess will come up with something here at home.

This afternoon Cowboy spent a lot of time in the guest bathroom and presented me with a pair of soiled shorts afterward.  I wish I could him to wear the throwaways.  The laundry issues are a pain.

Monday, November 5, 2012

Monday, November 5

The last couple of days have been a challenge.  Cowboy seems confused a good deal of the time.  I was setting the clocks yesterday and he didn't seem to know what was going on.   I explained it several times and then he decided to change his watch.  He couldn't figure out how and decided it was broken and wanted to "go downtown" and find somebody to fix it. He saw me with a small box in my hands and told me to empty it so he could put his watch in it to take it "downtown".  I explained it was Sunday and put him off.  Unfortunately, the darn thing is so complicated I don't know how to set it.  Now he has forgotten about it.

Last night he decided to close the shade on the patio door and fell.  He hit his head and seemed a little dazed but then announced he was fine and just sat there for the longest.  I was just going to call a neighbor when he decided to try to get up.  I told him to wait and he shouted at me and said he could get up.  With some time, struggle and my helping him as best I could we got him on his feet.

He insists he does not hurt, is not dizzy, doesn't need any attention.

We got him a good bath and creamed down last night.  His skin is rather dry.

This morning he slept until about 9 and then came out of the bedroom in his undershorts wanting to know where the fire was.  There has not even been a siren around here for several days. 

I told him to get dressed and instead he got in the shower and took another bath this morning.  The bath ritual seems to be either feast or famine.  He either won't take one or he takes more than he should.

We got him dressed and I fixed him breakfast. It included 3 sausages which he promptly fed to the dog.  I tried to talk to him and explain he was going to kill her.  He just looks at me.  A lot of the time I will ask him to stop feeding her and he completely ignores me.  I am seriously concerned about her health.  He needs protein at all meals and usually that is eggs.  He feeds those to her too.

He then went to his chair.  He asked for more coffee.  After I poured it he informed me it wasn't full enough.  He has a tendency to splash it so I don't fill it extra full.  He insisted I put more coffee in the cup so I did.

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Saturday, November 3

Halloween has come and gone and tonight is the change from daylight savings time.  My, how time does fly !

Had a Dr.'s appointment Tuesday.  He is referring me to a specialist about my hand.  It just hurts all the time and isn't getting better.  He thinks it is possible a cortisone shot may solve the problem but if not, maybe surgery.  I don't even want to think about it.

Had my day out Wednesday and just kind of piddled around.  Got a pedicure and went to a shopping center and bought a couple of bowls.  I had given some old dishes to my youngest daughter and I gave her the bowls that went with them so was a bit short on serving bowls. 

I don't feel like I have been at all productive this week.  Think am just recovering from last week and all the company.

Cowboy seems a bit out of it this week.  Think he is a bit tired as well.  He is having more and more trouble getting around.  I worry all the time that he will fall.

Both Cowboy and the pup are enjoying the patio.  The weather is pleasant and they spend part of every day out in the fresh air and sunshine.

Paid bills today and did the laundry.  Looking forward to a quiet Sunday.

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Tuesday, October 30

It has been a wild week.  My daughter arrived Tuesday.  We spent Wednesday looking for stuff for the patio and came home with pillows, cushions and a really cool pot.

Thursday we went to the Premium Outlet Mall.  I said going in that I didn't need any clothes, but I ended up buying a few things.  My daugher managed to arrive at the mall in her houseshoes so first stop was a shoe store.  I got a pair of sneakers.  Also, some panties and a running suit  (works well for running to the chair).  Later, she misplaced her sunglasses and bought another pair.  We found the lost ones in a bag when we got home!

I had the service provide coverage for Wed and Thur.  Thursday night a friend sat with Cowboy and my daughter and I went out for chinese and then to a movie.  Saw Argo.  Very good movie.

I had not been to the movies since I took Cowboy to see True Grit, maybe 2 years ago.  I swore never again because he kept getting up and going down the stairs in the dark and scaring me to death.

We stayed home Friday and she helped me with some chores that I cannot do on my own.  We turned the mattress and changed the bedskirt.  We took things down from "up high" over the kitchen cabinets and cleaned everything.

We ate out a lot and I enjoyed that but she also likes to cook and treated us to some new recipes.  The plan had been for her to be here until Tuesday and for my other daughter to come down from her home in a large city about 3 hours from here over the weekend.

The storm interfered with our plans.  Daughter number one had to leave early to beat hurricane Sandy and my other daughter was delayed by work until yesterday so they missed each other.  Now daughter number 2 is cooking for us.  It is interesting that both of my girls love to cook and I don't.  It does run in the family.  My Mom was a great cook and I have two sisters who are excellent cooks.

My grandson was supposed to come down Sunday but didn't since his Mom left to go home noon Sunday.  Bummer all the way around, but I got to see and visit with both of my girls.  and Cowboy got to spend some time with them.  He still knows who they are.

We just hung out and visited yesterday but today I have a doctors appointment so am leaving Cowboy with my daughter.  She is going to fix dinner.  In the morning she heads out.

So, if you were wondering if I fell off the planet, I did not.  Just been in a bit of a whirlwind.

Monday, October 22, 2012

Monday, October 22

The presidential debate is on and I am kind of listening to it with one ear.  Tonight I got out a tub and put Cowboy's feet in it and washed them really well, then I gave him a pedicure.  He has the most unusual feet I have ever run across.  Long, narrow, flat footed and with the most pitiful toenails one can imagine.  They are now clean, trimmed, medicated and his feet are all creamed and pampered.

Then I did his fingernails.  They looked pretty good but were less than clean and we gave him a good manicure.  He seems to like the attention and doesn't complain but on the other hand it is hard to get him to keep his hands where they need to be as opposed to his lap or on his legs.  It was a process of constantly reminding him to keep them up where I could do  my work.

Tomorrow morning I am taking the pup for a grooming and Cowboy for a haircut and breakfast at IHOP. 

My daughter arrives at 2:30 from New York.  Am really looking forward to her visit.  My other daugter will be here over the weekend as well as a grandson so have some family time coming up.  I really need it and am looking forward to the visits of all of them.

I finished the picture/memory wall on Sunday and it looks really great.  Cowboy actually does stop and look at the pictures.  I stood there with him today and asked him to identify what the occasion was for some of them and he could remember some things but couldn't a fair number of them.  Such a shame to lose the memory of going skiing in Garmisch, West Germany or dressing up as ghosts for a halloween party several years ago, etc.  I found a picture on the last day of Cowboy out on the prairie on a horse with cattle in the background.  It is tiny black and white photo but really captures a lot of who he is.  and then there is the photo of him as a young soldier in black and white sticking his tongue out.  He still does that when he is feeling silly and trying to be funny or make a comeback on something that has been said.  It says a lot about him. 

Will probably make some adjustments to it but feel good about getting it up and going.   Still have tons of things to go through but can take my time.  I guess I feel it would not be fair for the kids to have to deal with it sometime in the future.  I have put together a large envelope for each child and grown grandchild so they can just take them at some point in the future rather than trying to sort through literally hundreds, maybe thousands of pictures.  A lot of what is left to sort through are just trips and such that Cowboy and I took and am not sure they would ever even want to go through all of it.  I am a bit of a "shutterbug".

Saturday, October 20, 2012

Saturday, October 20

It has been beautiful weather the last few days.  Sunny and warm but not hot.

Thursday we had book club here at our house.  I put Cowboy and the dog in the bedroom and turned on the "Price is Right".  He was fine until it was over, then he comes out and is kind of wandering around over behind the sitting area listening to our discussion.  He went back in the bedroom and then came out again and did the same thing.  I sensed maybe he was hoping it would be over any second and we would break up.  We managed to just let him do his thing and not worry about him much.  Then the dog started barking and we let her out and she just proceeded to make friends with everyone in the room.

We were supposed to go to a pot luck Thursday night and I even prepared my dish.  Then I realized I just wasn't up to it so we didn't go.

My help came yesterday instead of Wednesday.  While I was getting Cowboy dressed and fixing breakfast at the same time (back and forth, back and forth) I went to the closet.  Cowboy has a chair in his closet where he sits and contemplates what he is going to wear.  He was sitting in his chair and there was blood all over his foot, his hands and dripping onto the carpet.  I grabbed some towels and water and started in and found he had taken a pair of hair cutting scissors and tried to trim a toenail and cut his toe.  I got him to the shower and washed it really well, put some antibiotic ointment on it and bandaged his toe.  There was blood dripped from the closet to the shower, in the shower and of course on the carpet.  I took lots of water and diluted the spots and dabbed them up.  It actually came up pretty well.  Probably because it didn't have time to soak in.

In the meantime Tracey arrives, my neighbor that walks our dog showed up and breakfast not not on the table.  Needless to say I lost some time right up front for my day out.

I went to a lovely ladies coffee and enjoyed that very much.  Then I got the car washed, my hair cut, went to Hobby Lobby for some ribbon and then only had time to go the grocery store and then home.  whew !

Last night I soaked his foot really well and washed it with this prescription antibiotic soap we had from the last infection he had and put him to bed.  This morning his toe looks fine.  Will be keeping an eye on it for a few days.  I can't think of anything more nightmarish than another bad infection, espectially on his foot.

I had bought some potted mums about 3 weeks ago and one of them lived and the other died so I bought another.  I put it in the ground this morning and hope it will live.  I need some color.

Had hoped to have time to look for something colorful for the patio but no time.

Will be working on the picture project today and doing laundry.

Cowboy ate a really good breakfast, is on his third cup of coffee and seems in a good humor.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Wednesday, October 17

When Cowboy and I got the church on Monday he wanted to carry in my violin.  I gave it to him and we walked the half block to the entrance to their recreation hall.  Then he got weak and started stumbling around and nearly fell down.  I managed to catch him and then a nice lady showed up with a chair.  I suspect his blood sugar was low.  He wouldn't eat at lunch except for a banana saying he was not hungry.  He sat through the program and even sang along some of the time and seemed to enjoy himself.

Today we drove to the VA center in a neighboring town and he had what I think is the last evaluation on the pending open issues.  It is unlikely we will get the 100% rating we were hoping for.  The VA does not classify dementia as being service realted.  There is a lot of evidence that it might be more prevalent in those with diabetes but not yet proven.  I got the impression we are going to stay at 80%.  The only reason I care is the tax advantage of 100% being it eliminates your property taxes.  That represents a good bit of money.  We won't know until the regional office reviews things but I suspect we have gotten all we will get from the VA in the way of benefit.

It was after noon when we were done so I stopped for us to have a bite before driving back.  We were going into the restaurant and he saw a plain navy car that needed washing and had a number of "dings" and he said "pretty car, isn't it?".  Where on earth did that come from?  I just agree and go on.  No use getting into a discussion about it.

Two nights ago he was up during the night rummaging around in my makeup drawer.  I heard him, woke up and asked him what he was doing and he said looking for some nail clippers. 

Last night he woke me up yelling "you can do it !  you can do it !  Come on, Donna, you can do it!"  Then he got out of bed and was playing with the drapes and getting back in bed and then back out and playing with the drapes and then back in bed again and back to sleep.    I have no idea what Donna he was referring to but the pianist I am working with is named Donna.

He couldn't tell the doc today hardly anything he asked but he did know his rank and the last four of his social security number.  He seems rather disconnected a good deal of the time.

Monday, October 15, 2012

Monday, October 15

Cowboy is getting more involved with the TV than I like.  He insists at all times of controlling the remote and he constantly gets things all fouled up and then he gets frustrated.

Yesterday AM I came into the living room and he was taking the remote apart and trying to get the battery out.  Seemed to think that would help.  Then, this morning, he was banging it on the table when it wouldn't do what he wanted.  Really have to watch him and make sure he doesn't get all tangled up and then frustrated.

I continue to work on the picture project.  Spent quite a bit of time on it yesterday.  I just love looking at pictures of Cowboy when he was younger.  He was (and still is) so handsome.  He looks great in his uniform, on his motorcycle, on a horse, all dressed up, playing with the kids, playing with our pets.

I have a busy week this week and then my daughter arrives next Tueday.  We go to the VA again this Wednesday for an evaluation.  That will take most of the day so I changed my day out til Friday.

Am off shortly to go play with the band.  Am taking Cowboy with me.  It is a beautiful day.

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Thursday, October 11

We face problems around here that weren't there before Cowboy became ill.  He will not stop feeding the dog.  This morning he would take a bite of his eggs and then give the dog a bite, then take a bite of his biscuit and then give the dog a bite.  Once he even put the fork he was eating with down to have the dog eat off of it !  I have asked and asked him not to do it but he continues.  Come lunchtime the dog got part of his sandwich.  If she is not right there by the table he will call her.  The problem this particular dog will eat anything and will eat until she pops.  It concerns me.

Yesterday I bought some chocolates in small boxes to use as thank you gifts.  I turn around and Cowboy has opened one of the boxes and proceeded to eat the candy.  I guess it is my fault.  I didn't put them away or tell them not to eat them (the latter probably would not have worked anyway).

Cowboy is pretty good at ignoring me when he chooses.   It can be anything from go brush your teeth to don't feed the dog to don't leave the door open, etc.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Wednesday, October 10

Monday I got a call and the stained glass transom is finished.  They came by Monday night and installed it.  That means that everything is done except the gate and the photo/memory wall.  I think by the first of next week everything will be finished.  That is good, given that I have company coming later this month and the holidays are fast approaching.

Cowboy is pretty passive about everything that is going on but I think he really likes the patio and so does the dog. 

It feels good to have some things finished after so long.

Sunday was a good day and a bad day.  We enjoyed a nice breakfast, reading the newspaper etc.  We went to a chili supper Sunday night.  On the way out of the building I tripped over a concrete parking stop and fell.  Well, I now have a scraped knee and a very sore body but no big harm done.  My hands were sore and swollen on Monday but have resolved now.

Then on the way home I hit a deer.  It was a small animal and I just clipped it but when I got home I had to really check over the car and found only a bit of blood and some hair.  I hope the deer only ended up sore as well but will never know. 

I practiced on Tuesday with the new pianist and we had a great time.  Cowboy was up and trying to dance to Tennessee Waltz.  It was absolutely wonderful to see.  I never cease to be amazed the effect of music on his  mood and behavior.

Today Tracey came and I went to the base and bought up everything in sight.  I stocked up on paper goods, soap, canned goods, etc.  It can be a challenge to find room for it all when I get home.  Tracey helped me put things away.  I also found a really cool laptop case at a very good price, so all and all a good day.

Cowboy ate good today and is now in the shower.  Need to go help him get out and get creamed up, etc.

Sunday, October 7, 2012

Sunday, October 7

It turned chilly yesterday.  Didn't get above 60.  It will be back in the 80's by tomorrow.  Will be great weather for the patio.  Yes, it is finished !  Well, almost.  The gate is not up.  The furniture is put together, thanks to a handyman, and I have a makeshift gate, thanks to a neighbor, and we are ready to let Cowboy and the pup spend some time outside.  We should have really good weather for a couple of months anyway.

Still waiting on the stained glass transom.  Three weeks ago they said it would be 2 weeks so hopefully soon.  Once that is in and the wall is finished I will feel like we have finished all the projects I envisioned early this year.  I guess then I will make a new list.

We have a new neighbor who plays piano beautifully and she and I are going to try to so some things together.  She came over Thursday and we practiced.  Cowboy really seemed to enjoy it.  Mostly easy listening stuff.  When we did Tennessee waltz he got up and kind of danced around.  It is true, what they say about dementia patients responding to music.

The picture project continues and keeps growing legs.  The guest room is top to bottom with piles.  It is fun, and sad, and joyous and heart bursting.  So many memories.  Sometimes Cowboy will wander in and I will show him a picture.  Yesterday I found a picture of a german shepard dog he had many years ago named Buddy.  He actually responded to it a little bit.  Also, he had this big red pontiac convertible and I found a picture of it.  These things were before my time but he has spoken of them with pride and happiness.    I may be at this for a month but it has needed doing for a very long time so why not now?

My daughter that lives in New York is coming for a visit later this month.  Haven't seen her in a year and am looking forward to it.

It is 8:40 and Cowboy is still asleep but he will be up soon.  I am fixing blueberry pancakes and sausage for him this morning.  Just about his favorite meal. 

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Tuesday, October 2

Cowboy is sleeping pretty well but he has been talking in his sleep a lot.  Sometimes shouting would be more descriptive.  Can't always tell what is going on but last night he had this conversation with someone for quite a while.  He was speaking clearly and making perfect sense.  Sometimes when he is awake he talks and you get garbled up words and can't make it out.

It has been pretty quiet the last few days.  I have been working on pictures.  Mercy, it is amazing how many we have.  I am weeding out and eliminating the old worn out albums.  Everyone will have an envelope with their pics and we can look at them together when they visit.  It is going to be hard to narrow it down and pick the right ones for the wall.  Well, it keeps me out of trouble and I am definitely not bored.

Went to Bunco last night.  A very nice neighbor down the street sat with Cowboy.  It was fun and I laughed a lot.  good therapy.

The weather is beautiful but the patio is still not finished.  Hopefully in a couple more days.



Saturday, September 29, 2012

Saturday, September 29

Our youngest daughter has triplets and they turned 8 today.  Wish we could be there but just isn't going to happen.  We sent a card and money.  They are really into saving up money and getting something they want.  Apparently that is a Kindle at the moment.

It has been a busy but not particularly interesting week.  We took Cowboy for a haircut and the dog for a grooming.  We had the cleaning people in to clean the floors.  The patio is not finished and given the heavy rain this weekend I figure it will be a few more days.

Today I worked on the picture project for 3 hours and barely made a dent.  I was OK until I started looking at pictures taken 20 or 30 years ago and in some cases, even longer.  I found myself getting emotional and just had to quit.  Looking at pictures of my 49 and 47 year old daughters as babies was hard.  I can't really say why.  My, how the years fly by.

I figure if I spend 3 hours a day I might be done in a week.  We will see.

Cowboy is eating well but he is confused more often lately.  He seems to be inserting himself into the TV programs he watches and also coming up with things that I have no idea what he is talking or thinking about. 

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Tuesday, September 25

Today was Cowboy's oldest daughters birthday.  We had sent a card and a text and tonight we called her.  They were out at dinner so it was a short call.  Cowboy is rather indifferent about just about everything but continues to be pretty content.

We went this morning for our annual eye exam.  We do them together.  We both are fine, no changes.
Cowboy has a very mild beginning case of macular degeneration but there is little concern since it has not changed much since last year.  He takes a lutein capsule every day at the opthamologists suggestion.  I have the beginnings of cataracts but they are not yet affecting my vision.  Overall a good report.

This afternoon Cowboy said "They haven't put Jason on the map".  I didn't have a clue what he meant and when I asked him to explain.  He got a little agitated and seemed frustrated that I didn't understand.  He yelled it again.  We don't know a Jason and we haven't been talking about maps and nothing was on the TV that related to it.  I just said OK and went in and turned down the bed.

I can't recall if I have mentioned we are having the patio made a bit larger.  That is happening this week.  It will have a low wall and gate and I can have Cowboy out on the patio without worrying that he will fall down in the flowerbed.  The dog can go out too.  The weather is cooling off so it will be nice for both of them.

Tomorrow is my day out.  I am going to get my toenails tidied up and a haircut and then make copies of a ton of music for the new piano player.  Then on to the grocery store.  ho, hum

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Sunday, September 23

Cowboy is having some problems the last couple of days.  He had his coffee cup in his hand this morning and was headed to the front of the house.  I asked him where he was going and he said he needed a handkerchief.  I told him he was going the wrong way.  They were in the bedroom in the drawer.  He seemed confused but eventully turned around and went to the bedroom and got his hanky.

I gave him some  cheese and crackers this afternoon and he wanted to know what it was.  I told him and then he ate them.

He's been wandering around the house a lot and that is unusual.  His mood is OK and he is eating so guess could be worse.

Yesterday he went into the bathroom and shaved without  being encouraged to do so.  He made a bit of a mess.   That was also unusual.  

We have pretty much stayed in the last couple of days.  I have been working on my projects.  Have about 30% of the picture wall done. 

It is beginning to cool off a bit and I am looking forward to the patio extension being completed.  It will have short walls and a gate and I can have Cowboy and the dog out there without worrying about them wandering off.

I went to book club on Thursday AM and to a ladies coffee Friday.  Both were close to the house, just a few houses down and I stayed only a few minutes.  It works out pretty well when it is 10AM and Cowboy is watching "The Price is Right".

He continues to wear his special shoes without complaint.  Guess they must feel a lot better than his boots or there is no way he would be doing that.  I am grateful.  Not only was he having trouble with his feet getting corns and callouses but it is not easy to get them off of him and he can't do it himself anymore.



Thursday, September 20, 2012

Thursday, September 20

We have a daughter and 5 grandchildren who have birthdays between now and the end of the month.  I was telling Cowboy and he had no response or interest.  One of my grandaughters called the other night.  I told him Terri Lynn called and he asked me who Terri Lynn was.  We don't see her often as they live back east but it still made me sad.

Monday I went to the pain management doctor.  I have a lot of pain at the moment.  Got a change of presciption.  He is not sure if it is more of the nerve pain or arthritis or maybe both.  This getting old is for the birds.

Tracy came Monday this week and after my appointment I wandered around some stores, had lunch and went to the grocery store.  I found some toys for the great grandchildren to play with when they visit.  Expecting them in the next weekend or two.

Got a call from the folks making the stained glass window and they said it will be ready in a few days.  Said they were excited to see my reaction.  I can hardly wait.  We started this in January I think.

They started the patio extension this week so that is coming along.

Took Cowboy to the doctor on Tuesday for his regular follow up visit.  No changes were made in his medication.  I told the doc he is tossing around and yelling out in his sleep.  Said to try two of the meds for the "REM Sleep Disturbance". 

Last night I was laying bed reading.  Cowboy had been asleep for about an hour.  All of the sudden he was shouting.  He was saying "He he he he he he he hit me"!.  It was sort of like something a crying five year old would say if someone hit him except it was being delivered in Cowboy's very low, resonant voice.  This morning he was flailing around and it woke me up.

It is 8:30 and Cowboy is still in bed but I better go figure out breakfast.

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Saturday, September 15

It has been an unusual day.  Cowboy was talking very loudly in his sleep a lot in the early hours.  Sometimes I can understand but this morning I couldn't put it together.  He was definitely "in charge" and giving orders.  Seemed to be something military.

He ate a good breakfast but it was 10AM by the time we had showered,eaten and I had cleaned up.  I then spent a couple of hours overhauling the refrigerator.  You know how it gets to a point that you cannot put it off any longer.  It is sparkling now !

This afternoon we were watching TV and Cowboy is fumbling around with the remote in an odd way.  It was like he was looking at it and trying to figure something out.  I asked him if he needed help.  He said he was trying to find the keys to help those fellows with the motorcycle.  He was wide awake and told this to me in a very matter of fact way.   there was a motorcyle in the show we were watching that had disappeared.   I just didn't know what to say and said nothing.  He just kept watching TV. 

Friday, September 14, 2012

Friday, September 14

It is 8:15 and Cowboy is still in bed.  It started raining yesterday and continues to rain.  We need it badly and are grateful.  Should  be some cooler air behind this when it is over.

I went shopping for a patio table on Wednesday and found a steal (50% off) at Lowe's.  End of season clearance.  Didn't buy it because still wanted to look some other places.  That took care of my day out.  Will probably go back to Lowe's later.  They have 5.

Cowboy has kept asking me about 3 or 4 times a day when he goes to the dentist and yesterday finally was the day.  He had a cavity and we got it filled.  He does fine with haircuts, dentists and such at this point.

I had been thinking about the patio set so with Cowboy in tow we went back to Lowe's.  Glad we did, they had marked the stuff down from 50% off to 75% off and they were being bought out from under us as we looked at it.  Table and 6 chairs for $250.  How could I not?   I had called and been told that I could pay for it and pick it up anytime.  Well, turns out that since it was clearance I couldn't do that.  I called a neighbor with a truck and he very kindly agreed to help me get it home.

I can't say enough about how kind everyone is.   I feel the care all around us.  It is hard to ask for so much help.  We are pretty independent folks but I have just had to learn.  When I think about it, it is true that I would offer a hand to someone who asked me.  It is because we are truly a community.

There is a new lady in our neighborhood that plays piano.  She is coming over this afternoon and we are going to see whether we can work together.  

No progress yet on the picture wall.  I am looking at a bunch of empty frames still.  It is going to take some time and I have to get my motor running and get to it.

Cowboy will be up soon and I am going to need to get his breakfast ready.  Right now I am just enjoying the quiet. 

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Tuesday, September 11

I have been feeling somewhat sad today.  We put the flags out this morning and I keep remembering that awful day eleven years ago.  We have come far but there is still that nagggin sense of doom.

I went to Bunco last night and my friend from the band came over.  She is such a sweetheart and a good friend.  I don't know how I ever thank my lovely friends and neighbors.  It was a good time and particularly welcome this month for some reason.

We have had a couple of bad nights in the last few days.  A few nights ago Cowboy got up and put on his pants, nothing else, and was wandering around and went to the front door.  I woke up about then and asked him what he was doing.  He said there was someone at the door.  It was 3AM.  It took some doing to let him know he was mistaken.  He was quite sure we needed to respond.

Last night he was thrashing about and pumping his legs furiously.  Never woke up , never said anything, but he must have been having some kind of dream.  I had a hard time going back to sleep.

I took Cowboy for a haircut this morning and then to IHOP. I had planned on taking him to WalMart for a few minutes but he wanted to come home. But before that he was insisting we needed to get to the dentist before we were late.  His dentist appointment is for Thursday. 

So home we came. A little later I suggested we put the top down on the convertible and go for a drive. It is a beautiful day and at that time was about 78 degrees. He liked that idea so we got out for a bit.   He seemed to enjoy himself.

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Thursday, September 6

The band met Tuesday at our bandmembers house who broke his hip and practiced for an hour and a half.  He was so glad to see us and really enjoyed doing it.  It amazes me that someone can break their hip on a Sunday and a little over a week later be up and about and playing his guitar.  He said his incision was only 5 inches and he felt fine with no pain.  amazing

I got all the frames on the wall and arranged to where they look nice.  Now I will take them down one at a time and put the pictures in them.  I suspect this is going to take a spell.  Maybe weeks.  I have to brag that just about every frame on the wall was purchased at 1/2 off or off of a clearance table or dug out of storage.  They are all black with white mats.  I think it is going to look cool.

Yesterday Tracy came and I went to do errands.  I went to Ulta to replenish some make up items, to Stein Mart to purchase a throw for my lovely new living room decor, to lunch at Carls, to Pier One where I got a candle display for the dining table, to the liquor store and then to the grocery store.  Given how far apart they all were I did good to get it all done in the 6 hours I had.  I always feel a little rushed and am constantly figuring out how much time I have and how to make it work out so I am home in the allotted amount of time.  That in itself is stressful.

There are those who wonder why I am trying to take on projects at this particular time.  It is hard to explain but it keeps my mind busy and pondering on things other than the concerns I have for Cowboy.  It keeps my time occupied.  Staying in all the time is sometimes really hard.  I consider it a form of therapy.  As long as I don't overdo it and impose deadlines on any of it is it actually good for me.

Today was nice.  We never left the house.  I cooked a good breakfast, read the paper, finished the frame hanging, made lunch, took a nap and then sat with Cowboy and read some periodicals.  I made a batch of ribs, one of his favorite things, and he ate well tonight.  He went to bed about 7:30 and I may just read for an hour or two before turning in.

My hand is really hurting and I made an appointment to see about it.  Not sure if it is part of the nerve problem, arthritis or maybe carpal tunnel.  Guess the doc can figure it out.  Now I am trying to run someone down to sit with Cowboy and someone else to take me to the Dr.  If they do a cortisone epidural which is possible, I will need someone to drive me home.  Am working on it.



Monday, September 3, 2012

Monday, September 3

My eldest grandson was down Saturday.  He helped me with my computer and getting all the wiring in the new TV cabinet.  We also hung picture frames.  He is one great young man.

We had a quiet holiday weekend.  Never left the house yesterday or today.  I did laundry and cleaned and paid bills, etc. 

Cowboy mostly just watches TV and I have to really encourage him to get up and about.  The other day he was really restless and I suggested he walk from the front to the back of the house several times.  He dutifully did that and then seemed to settle down.  Be so glad when the heat abates and we can at least go outside and enjoy some sunshine.

This week will probably be devoted to sorting through pictures.  It is time to edit my collection, which is really big, down to a manageable size.

The work on the house is now officially completed except for the picture wall.  It's a good feeling and I am enjoying the updates we did.

Cowboy didn't eat very well today.  He said his tummy was upset.  He went to bed at 7 and then was up at 7:45 wanting me to come to bed.  I think I will turn in early and read.

Thursday, August 30, 2012

Thursday, August 30

I spent my day out yesterday doing several things.  One of our band members broke his hip and is in the hospital.  I bought flowers and a card and went by to see him.  He is doing really well given he had a partial hip replacement.

I went down to Barnes and Noble because my NOOK wouln't work and got some help.  It is just like everything else in the electronic universe.  You have to turn these devices off sometimes.  I guess I didn't do that enough.  Hung out at the book store for awhile.  I love to browse.  Came home with 4 books.

I did a little shopping and went to the grocery store. 

Tracy is working out OK but she is not Marsha.  She doesn't do as much but she does what I specifically ask her to do so can't complain.  Said Cowboy ate all his lunch and was content.

I worked on pictures all day today.  Am just getting started.  This is going to take a while.  It will keep my mind occupied for a bit so is good therapy, and it is so hot just can't even think about getting Cowboy out.  It was 103 today.

Tomorrow we take Cowboy to the periodontist.  We are having his teeth cleaned every three months.  It is hard to get him to brush like he should.  Hopefully this will keep his mouth healthy.

Monday, August 27, 2012

Monday, August 27

Another month almost done.  They say time goes faster as you get older and I believe it.  Still very hot so can't enjoy being out.

I didn't get the repairs done Saturday so did them today.  I had some nail holes to fill and some soiled spots that just wouldn't come off with scrubbing.  Got that all done.  Took down some pictures and plan to start tomorrow on my picture project.  It has several purposes.  Want to update my eframe, want to put frames up for a photo display and want to go through a bunch of pictures and try to get somewhat organized with the whole thing.  I have a gazillion pictures.  Doesn't everybody these days?

My grandson didn't come down this weekend.  Had to rearrange things because of the hurricane.  Should see him next weekend

A couple of days ago Cowboy went to bed about 7PM.  I was messing around on the computer about 8:30 and here he comes, all dressed like he was up for the day.  He thought it was morning.  I sat him down and found something on TV for him and about 10PM we went to bed.  He slept until 9 the next morning.

I try to give Cowboy lots of hugs and kisses through the day and sometimes in the morning.  A couple of days ago I woke up and he was looking at me sort of blankly.  I said "Good morning".  He didn't respond at all.  I moved toward him to snuggle and he did not respond at all.  For some reason I just let it go and got up.  He turned back over and went back to sleep.  It was like he was just blanked out.

Breakfast continues to be his best meal and his weight is steady.  I offer him grapes and applesauce and yogurt and he eats it sometimes.  Am kind of surprised he has not picked up some weight.

I am getting in some naps and relaxation time and feeling pretty good right now.  All is quiet on our front.

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Thursday, August 23

It appears we are going to have Tracy all of the time now that Marsha has quit.  She is about 45, single with two kids that she shares custody with her ex.  She is very talkative but willing to do things and cheerful, etc.  I asked Cowboy after she left yesterday if she was OK and he said yes.  He doesn't really seem to care at all.

I went and got a pedicure and a haircut yesterday and then browsed around some stores.  Went to office depot for next year's calendar and a couple of other things.  It is amazing how many brightly colored school supplies they had.  Everything is bright and colorful and fun.  How the world has changed.  The only thing I remember having that was colorful was the crayon box.

Had Chinese at Panda.  Cowboy and I used to go out for Chinese a lot but he doesn't want to eat it anymore so I get my "fix" sometimes when I am out alone.

This morning I took the dog to the groomers and Cowboy for a haircut.  This was followed by breakfast at IHOP.  He looked at every single picture in the menu but then wanted the same thing he always gets, the senior 2X2X2.  We then went and got the car  washed and picked up some paint for me to do some repair on the woodwork.   Cowboy was having some difficulty walking and nearly went over a couple of times.  I talked to him about it and he said his legs were weak.   I had to help him get out of his clothes tonight.  I have to do that sometimes so not a new thing but he does seem weak.

My eldest grandson is coming down tomorrow to help with some computer and TV issues.  He is catching a plan to Florida to attend a wedding the following day.  He said the fare is half out of the airport here than in Dallas.  interesting...

I think I will spend some time Saturday patching holes and doing some spot painting.  Am going to take down a couple of things off the walls and then maybe next week start figuring out what to hang in their place.  I go through this every few years.  Just have to shake things up a bit.



Monday, August 20, 2012

Monday, August 20

If I had stayed married to my first husband we would be celebrating our 50th anniversay this month.  Maybe that is why I have been dreaming about him lately. Not that there is any longer an emotional connection.  We divorced in 1975, but he was a part of my life for some 13 years.   Sometimes my dreams include people from all different periods of my life and this seems to be the case.  It often also includes my mother who died when I was 44 and my sisters, only they are just kids in the dreams.  Wonder what it all means.

Cowboy and I went to the WalMart this morning.  I waited until late morning and then we went to the McDonalds in the store and I left him with his coffee and I ran around the store quickly to pick up some things.  He sat quietly and drank his coffee. 

I still have some things to do to get the house redo done.  I have this large picture of a wolf head in our hallway that I have been looking at for 15 or so years.  Think will create a picture wall.  The kids have sent me a lot of pictures in the last few years and maybe it is time to display them properly.  Actually I have been collecting frames from Hobby Lobby for some time now.  I think it might be good for Cowboy to see them all the time.  He has trouble with their names and who belongs to who.  Maybe this will help.

We had a wonderful rain this weekend and it is a little cooler and dryer but definitely still summer.  Another 5 or 6 weeks, I suspect.

Friday, August 17, 2012

Friday, August 17

I was supposed to go to book club yesterday morning but with the kitchen still in pieces and the cleaning people coming (they changed the time on me at the last minute from 1PM to 10AM) I was scurrying around trying to get things in the cabinets before they arrived.  I made it and all is done and clean and I am feeling good.  I enjoy book club and missed going.

A couple of friends came by for a few minutes to admire my kitchen's new look in the afternoon.

We had been thinking about doing some things in the house when we learned that Cowboy was ill and was going to continue to go down.  A while back I just decided to go for it and I am glad I did.  It has been good for me and despite my concerns about change and Cowboy has done OK with it.

I was laying in bed last night and thinking about reading the paper yesterday and starting to comment to Cowboy about an article.  I have always done that and it would start a conversation and we would discuss current events, politics, etc.  Sometime we would agree and sometimes we would have "lively discussions" about a topic.  I realized yesterday that even if I said something he would not know what I was talking about nor would he care.  I really miss that.  He had a lot of intellect and would often express an opinion that made me really think.  Loved it.  Miss it.

He is continuing to wear his new shoes without complaint.  I think his feet feel better and it is easier to walk in them than his boots.  He just kind of shuffles along now.

We had eggs and toast and grits this morning.  He ate well.  Sometimes he doesn't eat (again).  The caregiver said on Wednesday he only ate a few potatoes and would not eat his sandwich.

Our little band is playing a gig this morning at a adult day care.  I am taking Cowboy with me.  I took him last time we went there and he sat quietly and listened to the music.  He even carried my violin in and then out after.  His idea.



Thursday, August 16, 2012

Thursday, August 16

I did not realize so many days had slipped by til got an email from a friend because I had not posted for almost a week.  sorry

Monday I went next door in the afternoon and along with some other ladies learned how to make a necklace.  Always thought it would be fun to try to design and make jewelry so was interested.  I ran back over about efery 20 minutes to check on Cowboy and he was busy watching "The Talk".  I never cease to be amazed at his eclectic TV viewing.  Or maybe he is somewhere else in his head and isn't really watching at all.  Can't always tell.

They came Tuesday to install the granite so I was really busy getting things out of the kitchen and getting ready.  They had said could do it in one day but that didn't happen and we were still without a sink and access to the kitchen on Wednesday.  It was my day out and Tracy came but made for a messy day.  She got the sheets and towels washed and we used the microwave for meals.

Yesterday I went to the store and then took a friend to lunch who has sat with Cowboy a couple of times.  Went to a new restaurant which was a treat for me.  Love salad with fruit in it like strawberries, grapes, etc.

I was really tired last night and still didn't get everything put away.  Will try to finish up today.

Cowboy is in a good humor and doing OK the last few days.  He did tend to get in the workmen's way some.  He did frequent inspections of their work and went in and out the front door numerous times.  They were using the driveway to do the cutting so he had to check that out too.

We are done with it and it looks great.  Hopefully will get everything back in place today.

Friday, August 10, 2012

Friday, August 10

I need to vent.  My day started with one of my grandsons (21 going on 14) called.  He just started a new job a couple of weeks ago and assumed he would get paid today so his account is down to $2 overdrawn and it will be another week for his first paycheck.  8:30AM - "Grandma, can you put $80 in my account to last me til next Friday?"  Sucker that I am I told him I would.

I had planned on going to Home Depot today anyway and looking for a new faucet; however, Cowboy was still in bed and had not planned on going so early.  changed my plans and when Cowboy got up we went to WalMart and deposited the money and I picked up some thumb drives.  Am in the process of doing backups and ran out.

I take Cowboy to breakfast at WalMart's McDonalds.  After we finished our business there, I suggested he go to the bathroom.  "I don't need to go to the bathroom" he says and so we go on to Home Depot which is right next door.

Get out of the car and in the first set of doors and Cowboy announces "I need to shit".  I was trying to get him to move along and he got upset and insisted I go ahead and start my shopping, he could find the bathroom and he knew where the plumbing department was and would join me.  Rather than cause a scene I went on.

I pick out a faucet.  Takes a few minutes, still no Cowboy.  I start looking for him.  I ask an employee to check the bathroom.....no Cowboy.  I start searching the store and find him at the front by the cashiers.  I pay for the purchases and the clerk tells me he had started for the restroom and then came back and was standing around.

He had soiled his clothes so we came home.   I just wanted to scream at him "Now you know why I bought the disposable undershorts !" but I didn't.  I got him undressed and in the shower and the clothes in the washer and then I just lost it.  I couldn't keep the tears contained no matter how hard I tried.

On a positive note I made a decision yesterday evening to get the granite and the man came out and measured and I placed the order.  It is going to be beautiful !