Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Tuesday, July 31

It's not much fun to take Cowboy out to eat anymore.  Last night I suggested we go out and he didn't really care but was OK with it.  I suggested a different restaurant and he said no.  I asked him why.  He didn't respond right away but after a bit he says  "I don't know what to order".  We always go to IHOP or we go to a local place nearby for catfish or we go to Applebee's for ribs.  Those are his only choices and he doesn't ever want anything else.  Sometimes he looks at the menu for a long time but always ending up ordering the same thing.  I know he cannot read anymore and that may be a lot of it, but I can suggest things and he never wants anything different.  Last night we went to Applebee's and had ribs.

I had been a bit confused about our soft water tank.  The light to add was always coming on and I recently bought salt.  I asked my bandmates to help me put it in yesterday and was told it was way too full already.  I drag the book out and learn that it is supposed to be cleaned every three years.  I call the plumber who installed it and he comes out and I find that all the settings are screwed up, it has too much salt in it and our water filtration system is unplugged.  We got the system cleaned, everything all taken care of and I got a lesson in how to maintain both tanks.  Have no idea how they got in this shape but I can guess that at some point Cowboy messed with it.  The filtration tank was unplugged and the air compressor was plugged in.  My last recollection of using the air compressor was 2 years ago, about the time things really started declining.  No real harm done.  I am just going to have to get smarter about all this stuff.

Monday, July 30, 2012

Monday, July 30

The band is coming over this afternoon.  We are playing a gig Friday eve at a neighbors.  It is a fund raiser for the children of our troops at a nearby base. 

I forgot to mention the other day that when Marsha was here last Wednesday she was dusting and accidentally knocked Cowboy's phone off the hook while simultaneously hitting the button I have programmed to go to 911.  Apparently she was told that even though she said everything was fine they had to send a policeman out anyway.  When they did she called me.  She was concerned a neighbor would see them here and think something was wrong.  I guess it is good that they send a patrolcar even if told there is not a problem.  I never heard from any neighbor so I doubt anyone noticed.

I woke up this morning about 6 and could hear Cowboy snoring.  I glanced over and he was laying in the bed fully clothed.  He had gotten up some time in the night and gotten dressed.  He had put on dress pants, one of his good shirts and a good, nearly new belt, like he was going somewhere.  He doesn't remember anything.

When we were at IHOP last week I watched several guys come  in baggy shorts and Tshirts.  One fellow had on an undershirt with these huge arm holes and flip flops.  I see that and then I look at Cowboy.  He is always in long pants, a long sleeved shirt, boots, etc.  I am not proposing that way of dressing in this terrible heat but I have always liked that he cares about his appearance.  I swear some of these guys look absolutely awful.  Can you tell I am proud of him?  Lately he has cared very little but last night he got dressed up to go somewhere.

He has really into the Olympics.  I like to watch some of it so we will be enjoying that this week.

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Sunday, July 29

Thursday I took the dog to the groomer, got Cowboy a haircut and then took Cowboy with me and got a haircut myself.  The whole household is now looking trim.  We went to IHOP and as usual Cowboy ate every bite.  Don't know what it is about that place.

I talked to Cowboy about food some this week.  I had fixed a small steak last night and  he wouldn't touch it.  We are down to chicken and fish and that only prepared certain ways.  With prodding he said it tasted like "soap". 

Had a handyman by yesterday to clean the gutters.  Last time it rained you could tell they were clogged.  One more thing that we used to do ourselves and now must pay someone for.  He found 4 shingles missing and some leaking.  Three of the shingles were still on the roof and he is bringing another this next week.  Rather glad we discovered that before big problems resulted.

We received a box of cherries from our daughter a couple of days ago.  They are really tasty.  Am going to have to watch Cowboy and make sure he doesn't eat too many.

We have been watching the Olympics a lot the last couple of days.  I love the gymnists.

This morning I got Cowboy out and we went to the grocery.  Didn't have much to get and he seemed willing to walk around today.  He holds onto the cart and does fairly well.  It is so hot that is about the only way to get him out of the house.  Supposed to be over 100 today.

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Wednesday, July 25

Marsha came today.  So glad to see her.  Quick instructions and out the door.  Got a pedicure and a manicure and then picked a couple of girlfriends and went to lunch.  We talked for 2 hours.  Good break.

I got a call from the attorney on Tuesday.  He said a guardianship would cost between $3000 and $5000 and took months to do.  I told him what I was dealing with and he suggested I just keep the account open, keep an eye on it and transfer the money each month to the new account.  Is going to be a hassle but am not going through the cost, time and aggravation of a guardianship.

No word yet on the shoes and no call yet from VA.  I guess one return call is progress !

A couple of nights ago I woke up toward morning and found Cowboy with his head right against mine on my pillow.  Upon investigation I found his pillows on the floor and the bed clothes all tangled up.  I slept right through something, not sure what.  No harm done, thank goodness.  We have had so little of these problems with the latest medication that I was surprised that anything at all had happened.

Cowboy has had more trouble the last couple of days with getting around.  He seems very wobbly and tentative.  Am keeping an eye on him.

Monday, July 23, 2012

Monday, July 23

I called the lawyer on Thursday and again on Friday and he is not returning my call.  Why do I think this is going to be an uphill battle?

Friday Jayna came and sat with Cowboy and I went to the base.  Got gas, wine, some stuff at the PX and hit the commissary.  I came home $500 poorer but well stocked on just about everything.  Am getting our meds by mail now so my trips over there are going to be occasional from now on.

Friday was my birthday.  I am now 68.  I got calls from the girls, cards in the mail and a bunch of ecards.   In the evening a couple of friends took me and Cowboy for ice cream.  that was nice. 

Still no word on Cowboy's shoes.  I called them  three times last week and left word.  They told us a week when we ordered them and it has been just short of a month.  mmmmmmm......

No call about the shoes, no call from the lady at the VA, no call from the attorney.  I am sure they are all super busy and cannot appreciate that I would feel better if I could move just one thing forward.

Cowboy is doing fine.  He is sleeping, eating and mostly watching TV.  I can't get him to move around much.  Guess it is time to take him to a store and have him walk around with me.  Is way too hot to do it at home.  He can't walk far but seems like he should be moving more.  I try to get him out every couple of days but we just hibernated this weekend.

Sometimes he seems pretty confused about what is going on around him but a good deal of the time he is present and aware of things.  Can't get him to talk hardly at all and his answers often don't make a lot of sense.  He seems to really inject himself into what he is watching on TV.  He won't hardly take time to get up and go to the bathroom sometimes.


Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Wednesday, July 18

I was expecting Marsha today and planned to go to the base but she didn't come.  I called the agency and apparently she had emailed them that she had to care for her Dad but they didn't get the message.  Change of plans.   They will send someone Friday.  That means I will miss the ladies neighborhood coffee but not a huge deal.

I went by and picked up the letter that the doctor agreed to do for the VA.  He didn't write exactly what I had asked but I think it will work.  I called my financial advisor about the need to be a "guardian".  He has an attorney he is going to refer me to.

There are a whole bunch of wrinkles when you are trying to handle someone's affairs.  Maybe I should have done the guardian thing a while back but no one was advising me that I needed to.  Just about all business can be done on the internet these days and I have always done all of that so this is a bit irritating.

Today I took Cowboy with me and got some chinese food and picked up some sheets that were on sale.  He has bled all over two sets of sheets and they are OK but the stains are never going to completely come out.  I am going to leave these in the wrapper until we are done with the skin problems.  Things like that are gone if you don't get there the first day of the sale.  Why does it have to be like that?

I have had a couple of folks ask me the status on the state veterans home.  Cowboy is on the list.  I talked to them a few weeks ago to make sure nothing had changed.  They are predicting late this year at the earliest that they will have an opening.  I don't know what I am going to do.  Will probably depend on how he is doing at that point.  There are some who recommend that the client be put in the home before they lose their way completely because they adjust better.  I wonder if that is true.  I can't imagine that Cowboy is going to be even a little bit happy.



Monday, July 16, 2012

Monday, July 16

This past week I had called the payroll office for the military because they failed to transfer all of his deposits to our new bank account.  I had done the request on line but there was no way to use the site to correct the error.  They asked to speak to Cowboy to obtain permission to talk to me and when they asked him his social security number he didn't remember it and then they wouldn't talk to me.  Said would send me a letter.  Since it was their error I asked for an exception but was refused

I got the letter today and it tells me I have to get appointed by the court as his guardian before they will take requests from me.  (so ironic, since I have been handling this type of thing for years on line for him).  By the time I get a lawyer, wait on a court date, etc. it may not matter anymore.  What to do???

We had yet another new person this past Friday.  I had asked for the extra three hours so I could go talk to the VA about still another matter.  Got 2 letters.  One appointed me to handle his VA allotment (is the irony coming through yet).  Of course, that is not the allotment this is screwed up.  atleast that is settled.  The other requested more medical information for their review of his VA rating.  I got some guidance about what the doctor needs to provide and the forms for him to sign.

I even had time to stop by Hobby Lobby and buy a small artificial tree with my 40% off coupon for a corner in the living room.  Except for maybe making a table runner and/or place mats and the long delayed stained glass transom the project is finished.  It does make me feel good in a muted sort of way.

We had a quiet weekend.  I even got in a good walk with the dog and we got a good bit of rain.  I took Cowboy to McDonald's Sunday morning and then to the grocery store.  He held on to the cart and walked around with me but was very tired by the time we finished and I just got a few items.

I got up this morning and went walking again.  Household chores kept me busy a good bit of the day.

Tomorrow we have an appointment with the doc to get the forms done and I am going to give Cowboy a manicure and pedicure in the morning before we go.  He still has some issues with his skin and when he scratches he ends up with dried blood under his nails.  It looks like dirt but it isn't.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Wednesday, July 11

There are these little things we all do to take care of ourselves.  Clean our fingernails, brush our teeth, blow our nose,  wipe our bottoms.  What if, all of the sudden you quit doing those things as needed.  Hard to imagine but that is the way Cowboy is getting to be.  He doesn't have any awareness that they need doing.  So I have to keep an eye out and get them done.  It is a constant thing and is different depending on the day or the hour.  Little things we just never really think about but I guess we really are, but he is not.

I went to Bunco Monday night and my friend in the band sat with Cowboy.  She is such a sweetheart.  It is good to have people who care.  Bunco was fun.  I managed to get several good laughs in and the treats were great.  Those girls help keep me balanced.

I went to the dentist on Tuesday to get my teeth cleaned.  It is just down from the house.  Cowboy just refused to go so I left him and went and got it done.  Back in under an hour.  I just don't know how I would live with myself if anything happened in my absence.  The dentist said I had the mouth of a 30 year old.  That felt good.

Marsha is out taking care of her dad so I had another new person come today.  Every time it is someone different we go through this routine of covering what needs to be done, what to watch for for Cowboy, how to get the TV back where it needs to be if  Cowboy punches too many wrong buttons, how to start the washing machine, etc. etc. 

A neighbor took me to pick up some parsons chairs to update my dining room that I had decided I could not live without.  They look so cool.  Then I went to the store, etc.

I am feeling a little better overall.  It is good to get the house things finished and to get out and see friends.  and Cowboy is is eating and seems in a good frame of mind.   and life goes on......

Saturday, July 7, 2012

Saturday, July 7

I got quite a bit done yesterday while Marsha was here.  Now have new placemats, napkins and a tablecloth.  I got vacuum bags, looked at artificial trees and chairs and still made it to pick up milk and bread.

Got a letter from the VA today requesting a ton of information that I am not sure I can find in connection with the last of their evaluation.  For instance, where did Cowboy last work and why did he leave and a confirmation letter from the company.  Well he left in 1993 because the company went out of business.  He retired at the age of 63.  He had been managing a retail home improvement store for several years.  The hours were long and he was on his feet constantly.   He just decided it was a good time to hang it up.  Had nothing to do with his "unemployability".  No way I can get that.  Don't quite get all of this and what it has to do with anything.  Will consult with their office next week.

I am feeling a bit down at the moment.  Can't say why.  Just have a bad case of the doldrums.  Probably need some exercise and sunshine.  With it nearly 100 every day the only time to do that is early morning.  and I have to admit I am sick to death to having the TV blaring all day every day from the minute Cowboy gets up til he goes to bed.  Today it was NCIS reruns all day.  There is probably some kind of stress attached to that, huh?

Cowboy hardly talks at all.  I get no answer or one sylable answers to most things.  He seems content and OK most of the time.  He is feeding the dog from the table, way too much and he will not stop when I ask him too.  Pretty soon she will only be able to waddle.

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Thursday, July 5

I called on Monday and made an appointment to have the microwave looked at.  They were coming on Tuesday.  Then when I got up Tuesday AM it was working fine so canceled the appointment.  Must be one of those "right on the edge of failing" things.  On Tuesday night he quit again and then on Wednesday morning was fine. 

I don't know what went on this week.  Seems to be a bit of a blur.  Everything was fine.  Meals got cooked, laundry got done and I got in some reading time.

Yesterday morning I took Cowboy with me to the grocery store.  He didn't want to go but needed to get some things so off we went.  We got inside and he already looked tired so I sat him down on a bench and ran around the store as quickly as I could.

Last night we went to a neighborhood picnic to celebrate the 4th.  It was hot yesterday but there was a breeze and it wasn't bad at all.  Had over 70 people there.  Lots of food.  Cowboy filled his own plate and ate it all.  He got some of his food down the front of him but overall went pretty well.  In no time at all he was ready to go.  I think we were the first ones to leave.

Getting him out at all is getting harder and harder.  He is very slow, unsteady and somewhat unwilling.  He needs to be moving around and that is what works best but it is getting harder to accomplish.

Marsha is coming back tomorrow and I am glad.  I really prefer her to anyone else they have ever sent.  We changed the day because of the holiday.  I am still on the hunt for things for the redecorating I have been doing so that should keep me  busy tomorrow.  Am thinking about getting some parsons chairs and covering them for the dining area.  Not sure yet.

Sunday, July 1, 2012

Sunday, July 1

We went to the podiatrist Wednesday.  Cowboy had a corn recently but he also has some spots on his feet that seem raw.  The doc said he needed to get out of the cowboy boots and into some shoes.  We coaxed him by telling him he can still wear his boots when he goes to dinner and such.  It will take a few days to get the shoes and it is going to be interesting to see how this goes.

Thursday we took the dog to the groomer.  I was going to take Cowboy with me to do an errand or two but he wet his pants so we headed back home.  After we got him changed and let him rest I took him with me and we went to Home Depot to get some rubber things to put under the furniture so it wont't slide along the floor.  Then I took him to McAlisters for a baked potato and me a salad.  He ate it all.  Back to pick up the dog and home.

Friday we played at another day care.  I took Cowboy with me and he sat there quietly.  The audience, made up of folks with dementia were having a great time.  Cowboy was very quiet but I think he enjoyed it nonetheless.

I have been working on some things like pillows and covers for the bar stools and about have it done.  The planets continue to be out of alignment.  The trim came out crooked and looks less than professional.  I took part of it out and did it over but it still isn't completely straight.  I hope the pillow police don't show up at my house!

I had a handyman come by on Saturday and put up the cornices and help me with the screws on the bar stools.  He also cleaned the vent on the dryer.  My handyman list is finished for now.

and then, yesterday the microwave quit.  It's not like we can't get along without it but I am used to doing lots of things.  This morning Cowboy asked for more coffee long after the pot had shut off.  My usual response is to stick it in the microwave.  No more coffee for him this morning.  He had already had two cups which is enough so not a biggy.  Guess will find out next week whether we can repair it or will have to buy a new one.