Got up this morning early to take the car in. There is a cold rain falling. The dog was not at all happy that I was leaving and just barked and whined something terrible.
Got the car done and went to get a breakfast sandwish at Mc Donald's and then made a trip to Hobby Lobby. I wasn't looking for anything in particular but spent an hour just wandering around. It was rather nice. Didn't buy a thing.
Went to the local music store and picked up a check for Cowboy's Fender guitar that I had left there on consigment a few months back. Netted $950. They have a viola on consignment that I would love to have. Messed around with it for a while and gave some thought to buying it but didn't do so. Am thinking about it. I think it might add a cool sound to our little band and I feel it is underpriced and could sell it later if didn't work out. Am going to think about it.
I found Cowboy's Seiko watch yesterday and was going to get a battery for it but the jewelry store was closed until after the holiday. The one I bought him needs some links removed and I don't know how to do that but was hoping to take him his Seiko and then get it sized and return it.
I got into a little bit a trouble with the home because I had allowed him to keep his wallet. I had removed everything that I thought mattered (military ID, social security and medicare, etc.) but had left his drivers license just to make him feel better about being stripped of all the things he normally carried.
He forgot about it and it went through the laundry at the home. They told me I should not have let him have it and to take it home. It had a whole $7.00 in it and nothing with his social security or anything but I apologized and brought it home, wet and limp and useless. I try to let him retain some amount of sense of self but it just doesn't work too well.
Monday, December 31, 2012
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Sunday, December 30
I had planned to take the dog yesterday but got a call that Cowboy had fell and also had a cough and maybe a cold. Headed on over without the dog. As usual he had not hurt himself when he fell but is really frustrates him. The cough does seem different than the one he has had forever and he seems more "stopped up". They ordered an xray and urinalsis and are keeping a close watch on him. He doesn't seem very chipper today and slept most of the time I was there.
There was a shirt on his bed that did not belong to him to I looked through his closet and found two more shirts and two pair of pants that were not his. The name on them started with the same three letters as his name but the rest of the name was completely different. I suspect they take a quick look at the first couple of letters and that's how it happened. I am sure it will sort itself out.
I called and checked on him last night and he was doing OK.
This morning I took the dog with me and made another visit. He is not feeling well and seemed really out of it. He had wet his bed and then the next time he needed to go to the bathroom it took two of the aides to help him get to the bathroom. He seems weak. He did not eat his lunch so they brought him some soup and juice and he drank a little of it. They told me the xray and the other tests came back normal so they were giving him Claritin and some cough syrup. I told them he has had this cough forever and also the post nasal drip but it does seem worse.
The dog was a real pain driving over today. She barked and whined and wouldn't settle down. She was so excited to see Cowboy and immediately got up on his lap. then she got back down and was barking and pacing around. She didn't seem all that glad to be there. Coming home she slept the whole way.
I am taking the car in tomorrow morning for a part that had to be ordered. A few weeks ago I clipped a fawn on the road and it knocked out a small grill that fits around the fog light.
Talked to Cowboy's youngest daughter and she is planning on coming down on Wednesday and staying overnight. It would be great if we could check him out but they won't allow that until after the first 30 days adjustment period.
There was a shirt on his bed that did not belong to him to I looked through his closet and found two more shirts and two pair of pants that were not his. The name on them started with the same three letters as his name but the rest of the name was completely different. I suspect they take a quick look at the first couple of letters and that's how it happened. I am sure it will sort itself out.
I called and checked on him last night and he was doing OK.
This morning I took the dog with me and made another visit. He is not feeling well and seemed really out of it. He had wet his bed and then the next time he needed to go to the bathroom it took two of the aides to help him get to the bathroom. He seems weak. He did not eat his lunch so they brought him some soup and juice and he drank a little of it. They told me the xray and the other tests came back normal so they were giving him Claritin and some cough syrup. I told them he has had this cough forever and also the post nasal drip but it does seem worse.
The dog was a real pain driving over today. She barked and whined and wouldn't settle down. She was so excited to see Cowboy and immediately got up on his lap. then she got back down and was barking and pacing around. She didn't seem all that glad to be there. Coming home she slept the whole way.
I am taking the car in tomorrow morning for a part that had to be ordered. A few weeks ago I clipped a fawn on the road and it knocked out a small grill that fits around the fog light.
Talked to Cowboy's youngest daughter and she is planning on coming down on Wednesday and staying overnight. It would be great if we could check him out but they won't allow that until after the first 30 days adjustment period.
Friday, December 28, 2012
Friday, December 28
It is still cold but today would have beautiful if the wind had not been blowing so much.
I went to see Cowboy yesterday for about 4 hours. First, I went and got the oil changed on the car and then head over to see him. He was in a good humor. He just mostly watches TV but he had a fresh pair of clothes on and seemed OK. I brought him a longer cord for the telephone and some pads for the bottom of his new recliner so it wouldn't move about.
He had smothered steak, scalloped potatoes, bread and butter, stewed tomatoes and mince meat pie for lunch. I think he may gain some more weight on this kind of diet. Made me feel very inadequate in my preparation of meals at home. He ate every bite. It smelled really good and he gave me a bit of the pie. I am very impressed with the meals they serve.
This morning I packed up the car with some food and some clothes that I don't need and that he won't need and took them to a local charity. I went looking for a twin size quilt for his bed. Came up empty. The only twin size things available seem to be for children. Found several nice looking quilts but only in queen and king. May decide to just reduce the size of the one he has. Still thinking on that.
I also bought some Christmas things for 70 and 80 % off and will pack them away for next year. Went to WalMart and got some things and headed home.
Talked to a neighbor for a few minutes. It is interesting how concerned everyone is with my being alone. Although I have mentioned a few times that I have never been alone before I must qualify that with some things. When Cowboy was in the military he was often gone for weeks at a time and after he retired and went into retail he worked very long hours and I often didn't seem much of him. And then my job required some travel and I spent a number of nights alone in motels when out of town.
I was really trying to say that this is different because he probably will never come home and I am looking at the rest of my life without a companion to share my bed and my days. Many women do this and I know I am up to it but it is still unknown territory.
I am so grateful that Cowboy is adjusting so well to his new environment and seems quite content. He is eating well, is cheerful and seems comfortable. in his new surroundings. How can I wish for more?
I went to see Cowboy yesterday for about 4 hours. First, I went and got the oil changed on the car and then head over to see him. He was in a good humor. He just mostly watches TV but he had a fresh pair of clothes on and seemed OK. I brought him a longer cord for the telephone and some pads for the bottom of his new recliner so it wouldn't move about.
He had smothered steak, scalloped potatoes, bread and butter, stewed tomatoes and mince meat pie for lunch. I think he may gain some more weight on this kind of diet. Made me feel very inadequate in my preparation of meals at home. He ate every bite. It smelled really good and he gave me a bit of the pie. I am very impressed with the meals they serve.
This morning I packed up the car with some food and some clothes that I don't need and that he won't need and took them to a local charity. I went looking for a twin size quilt for his bed. Came up empty. The only twin size things available seem to be for children. Found several nice looking quilts but only in queen and king. May decide to just reduce the size of the one he has. Still thinking on that.
I also bought some Christmas things for 70 and 80 % off and will pack them away for next year. Went to WalMart and got some things and headed home.
Talked to a neighbor for a few minutes. It is interesting how concerned everyone is with my being alone. Although I have mentioned a few times that I have never been alone before I must qualify that with some things. When Cowboy was in the military he was often gone for weeks at a time and after he retired and went into retail he worked very long hours and I often didn't seem much of him. And then my job required some travel and I spent a number of nights alone in motels when out of town.
I was really trying to say that this is different because he probably will never come home and I am looking at the rest of my life without a companion to share my bed and my days. Many women do this and I know I am up to it but it is still unknown territory.
I am so grateful that Cowboy is adjusting so well to his new environment and seems quite content. He is eating well, is cheerful and seems comfortable. in his new surroundings. How can I wish for more?
Thursday, December 27, 2012
Thursday, December 27
I do better if I stay busy so I spent yesterday starting the task of going through Cowboy's drawers and seeing what needs to be cleaned out. I have never been one to bother with his "stuff" and it was quite interesting to go through things.
He is not an organized man ! I found all kinds of stuff just dumped willy nilly. Receipts and bits of paper from years ago, some rubber bands so old they fell apart as I picked them up, used hearing aid batteries, littel note pads, a whole box of pieces of Cross pens. I was able to piece some together and came up with four complete ones. Do they make Cross pens anymore? I think every piece of dental stuff he has been given in the last 6 years were still in the drawer (floss, picks, etc).
I put all his belt buckles together, they were everywhere. I cleaned up his collection of ties and eliminated some of them, washed his western ties. Guess I can call it tidied up so can rotate some of his things to him over time.
I also pulled out his guns and knives. I am thinking about distributing them to the kids. Not sure. I don't much like guns and knives but he liked that sort of thing.
Today I am up early. Am taking the car in for service, going to find a longer telephone cord and then over to see Cowboy.
He is not an organized man ! I found all kinds of stuff just dumped willy nilly. Receipts and bits of paper from years ago, some rubber bands so old they fell apart as I picked them up, used hearing aid batteries, littel note pads, a whole box of pieces of Cross pens. I was able to piece some together and came up with four complete ones. Do they make Cross pens anymore? I think every piece of dental stuff he has been given in the last 6 years were still in the drawer (floss, picks, etc).
I put all his belt buckles together, they were everywhere. I cleaned up his collection of ties and eliminated some of them, washed his western ties. Guess I can call it tidied up so can rotate some of his things to him over time.
I also pulled out his guns and knives. I am thinking about distributing them to the kids. Not sure. I don't much like guns and knives but he liked that sort of thing.
Today I am up early. Am taking the car in for service, going to find a longer telephone cord and then over to see Cowboy.
Tuesday, December 25, 2012
Tuesday, December 25, Christmas
Yesterday I got up and went to the grocery store. Tried to go early to avoid crowds. Didn't work. at 8AM the place was packed.
Had an offer from a friend to take a walk. It was about 40 outside so bundled up and took off. The dog had a great time. She got to walk a good long while. It was great to be out, not worry about getting back in 10 minutes and having someone to talk to.
I drove over to see Cowboy and took the dog with me. She was very antsy going over and barked a lot. When we got there she was so excited and just raced around and wanted to let everyone pet her. We went to Cowboy's room and she jumped up on his knee and that was that. For two hours we just enjoyed the dog and watched TV and visited.
I decided to get Cowboy a telephone for his room. That way I can call him every day and the kids can call when they want to. I called the telephone company and it will be installed by Friday.
Didn't stay but about 3 hours, what with the dog. Headed back. The traffic was much lighter and not bad at all. Hardly any "big rigs" today. The dog layed down and slept most of the way back.
This morning I am packing up a telephone, a TV tray to put beside his chair and a picture of him for his door.
Probably will stay there most of the day today since it is Christmas.
Merry Christmas to everyone !!
Had an offer from a friend to take a walk. It was about 40 outside so bundled up and took off. The dog had a great time. She got to walk a good long while. It was great to be out, not worry about getting back in 10 minutes and having someone to talk to.
I drove over to see Cowboy and took the dog with me. She was very antsy going over and barked a lot. When we got there she was so excited and just raced around and wanted to let everyone pet her. We went to Cowboy's room and she jumped up on his knee and that was that. For two hours we just enjoyed the dog and watched TV and visited.
I decided to get Cowboy a telephone for his room. That way I can call him every day and the kids can call when they want to. I called the telephone company and it will be installed by Friday.
Didn't stay but about 3 hours, what with the dog. Headed back. The traffic was much lighter and not bad at all. Hardly any "big rigs" today. The dog layed down and slept most of the way back.
This morning I am packing up a telephone, a TV tray to put beside his chair and a picture of him for his door.
Probably will stay there most of the day today since it is Christmas.
Merry Christmas to everyone !!
Sunday, December 23, 2012
Sunday, December 23
Yesterday I got up at 7AM and started getting some things together. I packed his walker, a quilt and pillows, a picture and plaque, a hammer, some hangers and put them in the car.
I returned the bracket to mount the TV (they won't allow it right now"), got a haircut, mailed some paperwork to the insurance company and headed over to see Cowboy.
When I arrived he was in his room watching TV, was dressed, had had breakfast and was in a good mood. I worked on putting everything up and away and then we watched TV. The kids came and we had a little Christmas exchange. He asked us all to leave at 8PM. Said he was tired.
The traffic was terrible both going and coming home. Arrived home tired and a bit stressed. By the time I got relaxed and got the dog relaxed it was 11. Our pup is really wondering what is going on and spent some of day today pouting and staying under the bed. I took her for a walk and I think that helped. She and Cowboy are such a pair. I think she is really feeling sad and confused.
I slept in this morning. It was great. Spent the day cancelling his prescriptions, doing laundry, reorganizing the pantry and pulling some things out that I won't use plus reading the Sunday paper.
Have a donation for the local food pantry and a clothing donation as well. I feel a need to get things a bit organized but also a need to just decompress. Hopefully can do both.
I really wished I could have called Cowboy today. I may consider putting a telephone in his room.
I returned the bracket to mount the TV (they won't allow it right now"), got a haircut, mailed some paperwork to the insurance company and headed over to see Cowboy.
When I arrived he was in his room watching TV, was dressed, had had breakfast and was in a good mood. I worked on putting everything up and away and then we watched TV. The kids came and we had a little Christmas exchange. He asked us all to leave at 8PM. Said he was tired.
The traffic was terrible both going and coming home. Arrived home tired and a bit stressed. By the time I got relaxed and got the dog relaxed it was 11. Our pup is really wondering what is going on and spent some of day today pouting and staying under the bed. I took her for a walk and I think that helped. She and Cowboy are such a pair. I think she is really feeling sad and confused.
I slept in this morning. It was great. Spent the day cancelling his prescriptions, doing laundry, reorganizing the pantry and pulling some things out that I won't use plus reading the Sunday paper.
Have a donation for the local food pantry and a clothing donation as well. I feel a need to get things a bit organized but also a need to just decompress. Hopefully can do both.
I really wished I could have called Cowboy today. I may consider putting a telephone in his room.
Friday, December 21, 2012
Friday, December 21
First day of winter, shortest day of the year, end of the Mayan calendar. Shouldn't be hard to remember this date. But the reason I will remember is because this is the day that Cowboy was checked into a home.
Yesterday we slept in a little, had breakfast and then went to Best Buy and Cowboy picked out a TV. It is a 32 inch LG. Should be a dependable one. The rest of the day I spent getting his things gathered up and all his clothes labeled and things in the car ready to go.
We got up this morning at 7AM and started over at 8:45. That gave him lots of time to eat and get ready. When we got out to the car, he walked out to the driveway and looked all around and then he came got in the car. After we had been on the road a few minutes I noticed tears in his eyes. I took his hand and held it as we drove down the highway at 75 MPH but after a few minutes he was OK.
I dropped by the furniture store and paid to have the recliner delivered and they will do that today.
We spent about 1 and 1/2 hours with the business manager and the social worker. There was lots of paperwork plus going over the rules and expectations, etc. He had to sign some of the papers but since I have a power of attorney I signed most of them.
We then went to the memory unit just in time for lunch. They sat him down with 3 other fellows and I hung out at the nurses station talking to the staff. When he was through he came over and said "That was pretty good catfish".
We spent some time putting his things away and then I told him I was going to get some lunch and I left and went to Target and bought him a cheap watch and a shelving unit for the bathroom.
When I got back the recliner was in place, the TV was hooked up and he was watching an episode of "Walker, Texas Ranger". He seemed fine. I stayed and watched TV with him for a period of time and then told him I was going home after I went by the business office and set up his little petty cash account and paid for December. He said OK, kissed me goodbye and I left.
The expressway was very crowded, what with this being the beginning of the Christmas holiday for lots of people.
Am home now and very tired. While I was driving home my daughter called and she and two of her grown sons are coming down tomorrow in the afternoon. I am going to spend the morning tidying up, doing a little laundry and putting some things together for Cowboy. This will include a quilt, a fluffy pillow, some hangers, a TV tray, his walker. I am forgetting some things right this minute but hopefully will remember them before in the morning.
Yesterday we slept in a little, had breakfast and then went to Best Buy and Cowboy picked out a TV. It is a 32 inch LG. Should be a dependable one. The rest of the day I spent getting his things gathered up and all his clothes labeled and things in the car ready to go.
We got up this morning at 7AM and started over at 8:45. That gave him lots of time to eat and get ready. When we got out to the car, he walked out to the driveway and looked all around and then he came got in the car. After we had been on the road a few minutes I noticed tears in his eyes. I took his hand and held it as we drove down the highway at 75 MPH but after a few minutes he was OK.
I dropped by the furniture store and paid to have the recliner delivered and they will do that today.
We spent about 1 and 1/2 hours with the business manager and the social worker. There was lots of paperwork plus going over the rules and expectations, etc. He had to sign some of the papers but since I have a power of attorney I signed most of them.
We then went to the memory unit just in time for lunch. They sat him down with 3 other fellows and I hung out at the nurses station talking to the staff. When he was through he came over and said "That was pretty good catfish".
We spent some time putting his things away and then I told him I was going to get some lunch and I left and went to Target and bought him a cheap watch and a shelving unit for the bathroom.
When I got back the recliner was in place, the TV was hooked up and he was watching an episode of "Walker, Texas Ranger". He seemed fine. I stayed and watched TV with him for a period of time and then told him I was going home after I went by the business office and set up his little petty cash account and paid for December. He said OK, kissed me goodbye and I left.
The expressway was very crowded, what with this being the beginning of the Christmas holiday for lots of people.
Am home now and very tired. While I was driving home my daughter called and she and two of her grown sons are coming down tomorrow in the afternoon. I am going to spend the morning tidying up, doing a little laundry and putting some things together for Cowboy. This will include a quilt, a fluffy pillow, some hangers, a TV tray, his walker. I am forgetting some things right this minute but hopefully will remember them before in the morning.
Wednesday, December 19, 2012
Wednesday, December 19
We got up this morning, had a good breakfast and drove to the nursing home. Got there about 10 minutes early but didn't have to wait at all. Had an interview with a social worker, the head of nursing and a tour by the business manager. We got to see the room. It has a complete bath but I was assured he would always have an aide to help with his bath.
Cowboy got really shaky about half way down the hall on the tour so we got him a wheelchair and rolled him around. The room is very nice, not a bad size and appears to have enough storage.
It was suggested we not bring anything valuable because sometimes things disappear. They have even had TV's removed.
There is a nice outside area that is secure and the dog is welcome, but need to bring her papers for them.
I then took Cowboy to lunch at Cracker Barrel. As we were coming out he got weak again so I was helping him to the car. A lady saw us and came over and took his arm. I went ahead to get the car open and he was about to fall. A man saw us and came over to help. Between him and the lady they were trying to move him along much faster than he can walk and ended up kind of dragging him. I suggested they slow down and we got him to the car. Time to go home.
Got a call about 4PM that everything was approved and we made an appointment for 10AM on Friday to do the paperwork and check him in.
I called the girls and let them know. Then I got a call from one of the grandsons. He was so sweet. He was worried that we had "checked this place out really well". and then he wanted to talk about whether I would be OK alone. I think I made him feel better. I told him I have a lovely home in a lovely and very safe area, lots of friends and can fill my time, lots of it just visiting Cowboy so not to worry about me.
Cowboy got really shaky about half way down the hall on the tour so we got him a wheelchair and rolled him around. The room is very nice, not a bad size and appears to have enough storage.
It was suggested we not bring anything valuable because sometimes things disappear. They have even had TV's removed.
There is a nice outside area that is secure and the dog is welcome, but need to bring her papers for them.
I then took Cowboy to lunch at Cracker Barrel. As we were coming out he got weak again so I was helping him to the car. A lady saw us and came over and took his arm. I went ahead to get the car open and he was about to fall. A man saw us and came over to help. Between him and the lady they were trying to move him along much faster than he can walk and ended up kind of dragging him. I suggested they slow down and we got him to the car. Time to go home.
Got a call about 4PM that everything was approved and we made an appointment for 10AM on Friday to do the paperwork and check him in.
I called the girls and let them know. Then I got a call from one of the grandsons. He was so sweet. He was worried that we had "checked this place out really well". and then he wanted to talk about whether I would be OK alone. I think I made him feel better. I told him I have a lovely home in a lovely and very safe area, lots of friends and can fill my time, lots of it just visiting Cowboy so not to worry about me.
Tuesday, December 18, 2012
Tuesday, December 18
I forgot the funniest thing that happened yesterday. I had a handful of mail to drop off and wanted to use the box because there were some checks in them. Got to the mailbox and there was this car parked there. Next I saw a lady at the back of the car in houseshoes and a very flimsy rode and gown on. Her hair was sticking up all over.
She walks over to my car and about that time I see another lady similarly dressed come around the corner of the car. She tells me the mailbox is overflowing and they were going to go find another one. Did I want to give them my mail? Nice gesture but no thanks. I was really needing to get going so I drove off. (amazing and it was a bit chilly out) It was about 9:15AM.
This morning I took Cowboy and got him a haircut. We then drove to the town where the nursing facility was. It was clear blue skies today with an expected high of 80 so a perfect day to get him out for a drive. I needed to try to find a recliner for him.
We went to a furniture store going out of business on mail street. He wanted to go in and look so in we went. There were ramps everywhere but he did OK. He insisted on leather, as always, and I picked out a nice taupe one that I thought would work with any decor. He didn't like it. He found another that was kind of dark brownish burgundy. Both were very nice and marked off about 70% so we got a really good deal. It was a nice store. Too bad. Looked like their store was one of the anchor stores on the main street of town. I think Rooms to Go may be taking over the world and their stuff is mostly made in China.
On the way home, got a call from the Dr. and told to pick up the fax I had dropped off. Then the home called and said the history and physical was from June and would not do. Need the current one. She told me if we don't get this done this week it will be after the first of the year. Not sure why but got the impression everyone that approves anything must be taking the holiday off. She asked me to get one from Friday and asked if we could come tomorrow for an interview and to bring it with us.
We stopped back by the Dr. office and I got it done.
Left this morning at 8:30. Got home at 3. Cowboy is tired. Still haven't bought a laundry marking pen.
She walks over to my car and about that time I see another lady similarly dressed come around the corner of the car. She tells me the mailbox is overflowing and they were going to go find another one. Did I want to give them my mail? Nice gesture but no thanks. I was really needing to get going so I drove off. (amazing and it was a bit chilly out) It was about 9:15AM.
This morning I took Cowboy and got him a haircut. We then drove to the town where the nursing facility was. It was clear blue skies today with an expected high of 80 so a perfect day to get him out for a drive. I needed to try to find a recliner for him.
We went to a furniture store going out of business on mail street. He wanted to go in and look so in we went. There were ramps everywhere but he did OK. He insisted on leather, as always, and I picked out a nice taupe one that I thought would work with any decor. He didn't like it. He found another that was kind of dark brownish burgundy. Both were very nice and marked off about 70% so we got a really good deal. It was a nice store. Too bad. Looked like their store was one of the anchor stores on the main street of town. I think Rooms to Go may be taking over the world and their stuff is mostly made in China.
On the way home, got a call from the Dr. and told to pick up the fax I had dropped off. Then the home called and said the history and physical was from June and would not do. Need the current one. She told me if we don't get this done this week it will be after the first of the year. Not sure why but got the impression everyone that approves anything must be taking the holiday off. She asked me to get one from Friday and asked if we could come tomorrow for an interview and to bring it with us.
We stopped back by the Dr. office and I got it done.
Left this morning at 8:30. Got home at 3. Cowboy is tired. Still haven't bought a laundry marking pen.
Monday, December 17, 2012
Monday, December 17
I am thinking I will laugh about today later, but it was just frustrating today.
I changed my day out to today and had to get up at 6:30. I had agreed with the nurse would drop off the papers right after 8AM. Tracey arrived as expected. My first stop was to drop off the corrected paperwork to the Dr.'s nurse. They couldn't find her for a period of time but finally got with her. She said she would call me after the fax was sent. Never got a call all day.
Went to get a quick breakfast at McDonald's and that went OK. Next stop was for gas. The pump said had to pay inside. Cold out and I had no coat but went in and left my credit card. Then the pump dribbled the gas out veerrry slowly. Finally got it going after stopping and starting the flow about 5 times. Got my card and then realized I really needed to go to the bathroom. It was busy and I was late so left.
Drove to the meeting place to meet the dulcimer group for a gig. Nearly didn't get there and was about to pee in my britches. Made that and went on to the gig. We played at a senior community center and it went well. The old folks really appreciate the old Christmas carols.
I then made a quick run to the grocery store and got home just in time. Felt like I had been in a dead run all day. Got some stamps so can finish my cards tonight.
Lots of nice people have sent emails and called me. and I got to talk to the dulcimer group a little bit. It all helps.
Cowboy was doing only fair today. He seemed tired and when I got him in to bathe him tonight he could barely walk. Before that he was in the kitchen and kind of stumbled forward into the refrigerator but caught himself. We got him all covered with cream and to bed.
I am going to take him tomorrow for a haircut and then depending on things may try to find a recliner.
I changed my day out to today and had to get up at 6:30. I had agreed with the nurse would drop off the papers right after 8AM. Tracey arrived as expected. My first stop was to drop off the corrected paperwork to the Dr.'s nurse. They couldn't find her for a period of time but finally got with her. She said she would call me after the fax was sent. Never got a call all day.
Went to get a quick breakfast at McDonald's and that went OK. Next stop was for gas. The pump said had to pay inside. Cold out and I had no coat but went in and left my credit card. Then the pump dribbled the gas out veerrry slowly. Finally got it going after stopping and starting the flow about 5 times. Got my card and then realized I really needed to go to the bathroom. It was busy and I was late so left.
Drove to the meeting place to meet the dulcimer group for a gig. Nearly didn't get there and was about to pee in my britches. Made that and went on to the gig. We played at a senior community center and it went well. The old folks really appreciate the old Christmas carols.
I then made a quick run to the grocery store and got home just in time. Felt like I had been in a dead run all day. Got some stamps so can finish my cards tonight.
Lots of nice people have sent emails and called me. and I got to talk to the dulcimer group a little bit. It all helps.
Cowboy was doing only fair today. He seemed tired and when I got him in to bathe him tonight he could barely walk. Before that he was in the kitchen and kind of stumbled forward into the refrigerator but caught himself. We got him all covered with cream and to bed.
I am going to take him tomorrow for a haircut and then depending on things may try to find a recliner.
Saturday, December 15, 2012
Saturday, December 15
A while back I bought some little "deodorant balls" to put in Cowboy's shoes when he wasn't wearing them to absorb odors.
Yesterday he was complaing that he had a toenail hurting him. I asked him if maybe he had not removed the ball. He said that was not it. I suggested he humor me, I took off his shoe and sure enough it was stuffed down in the toe area of his shoe. Problem solved. He is almost always sure I don't know what I am talking about. (and I almost always do)
I told him this week that couldn't find the key that he carried in his pocket. He said it was a house key. I told him, no it was a car key. We have had this discussion a few times already but I would like to locate the key. He said he had put it away for safekeeping and refused to tell me where it was. He continues to insist it is a house key. I suspect someday I will find it.
I fixed Cowboy blueberry pancakes and breakfast sausages this morning. This is probably his very favorite breakfast. It makes me feel good to do something for him that he likes.
I still have not bought a laundry marker and must do that tomorrow and get his clothes marked.
I got laundry done today and pretty much finished up our cards. We don't get near as many as we used to. Have received several ecards. Guess that is the way things are going.
It is so warm for this time of year. About 70 today.
Yesterday he was complaing that he had a toenail hurting him. I asked him if maybe he had not removed the ball. He said that was not it. I suggested he humor me, I took off his shoe and sure enough it was stuffed down in the toe area of his shoe. Problem solved. He is almost always sure I don't know what I am talking about. (and I almost always do)
I told him this week that couldn't find the key that he carried in his pocket. He said it was a house key. I told him, no it was a car key. We have had this discussion a few times already but I would like to locate the key. He said he had put it away for safekeeping and refused to tell me where it was. He continues to insist it is a house key. I suspect someday I will find it.
I fixed Cowboy blueberry pancakes and breakfast sausages this morning. This is probably his very favorite breakfast. It makes me feel good to do something for him that he likes.
I still have not bought a laundry marker and must do that tomorrow and get his clothes marked.
I got laundry done today and pretty much finished up our cards. We don't get near as many as we used to. Have received several ecards. Guess that is the way things are going.
It is so warm for this time of year. About 70 today.
Friday, December 14, 2012
Friday, December 15
We have been watching the coverage all day of the terrible shooting in Conn. It just breaks my heart.
I cannot imagine how any parent could ever forgive someone just coming into their child's school and gunning innocent children down.
On Wednesday I had my day out. Did a little shopping and then met 7 friends for lunch. Then we went to one of the ladies house and had dessert. Talk about blowing one's calorie count. Great time.
Yesterday I took Cowboy to the dentist and got his teeth cleaned. He does very well at these appointments at this point.
Today was hard. I had forgotten about the ladies coffee and had no one to stay with Cowboy. Just down the street so went for just a few minutes and left Cowboy to watch "The Price is Right". Brought him back some food. At least got to tell all my neighborhood ladies Merry Christmas.
This afternoon I asked Cowboy to sit down and sign the paperwork that has to go to the nursing home and the insurance company. He kept asking questions and I answered them all honestly. I asked him a couple of times if he was understanding what I was telling him. He said yes. When I gave him some of the papers and asked him to sign he read it over and over but wouldn't sign it. He was very quiet. I suggested we do it later, it was time to go to the doctor.
I went over everything that was happening on the way to the doctor. While we were in the doctor's office he began to cry. I think I have seen him cry maybe 4 times in the last 36 years. I told him I was sad too and I started to cry. When the doctor came in he could tell this was going on. He assured Cowboy that he would love the home, make friends, have lots of conversations, etc. Cowboy just sat there and didn't say anything. I told Cowboy that he would be the highest ranking soldier there and the doctor told him that a private room was worth grabbing because I could stay with him all I wanted. I also told him the dog could visit. We got through it and the paperwork got faxed and we headed home.
After we got home I discovered some errors on the forms and called the Dr. Need to run it by to them Monday AM and get the corrections made.
I feel so tired. Glad nothing I need to do tomorrow except stay home and get a few piles reduced.
I cannot imagine how any parent could ever forgive someone just coming into their child's school and gunning innocent children down.
On Wednesday I had my day out. Did a little shopping and then met 7 friends for lunch. Then we went to one of the ladies house and had dessert. Talk about blowing one's calorie count. Great time.
Yesterday I took Cowboy to the dentist and got his teeth cleaned. He does very well at these appointments at this point.
Today was hard. I had forgotten about the ladies coffee and had no one to stay with Cowboy. Just down the street so went for just a few minutes and left Cowboy to watch "The Price is Right". Brought him back some food. At least got to tell all my neighborhood ladies Merry Christmas.
This afternoon I asked Cowboy to sit down and sign the paperwork that has to go to the nursing home and the insurance company. He kept asking questions and I answered them all honestly. I asked him a couple of times if he was understanding what I was telling him. He said yes. When I gave him some of the papers and asked him to sign he read it over and over but wouldn't sign it. He was very quiet. I suggested we do it later, it was time to go to the doctor.
I went over everything that was happening on the way to the doctor. While we were in the doctor's office he began to cry. I think I have seen him cry maybe 4 times in the last 36 years. I told him I was sad too and I started to cry. When the doctor came in he could tell this was going on. He assured Cowboy that he would love the home, make friends, have lots of conversations, etc. Cowboy just sat there and didn't say anything. I told Cowboy that he would be the highest ranking soldier there and the doctor told him that a private room was worth grabbing because I could stay with him all I wanted. I also told him the dog could visit. We got through it and the paperwork got faxed and we headed home.
After we got home I discovered some errors on the forms and called the Dr. Need to run it by to them Monday AM and get the corrections made.
I feel so tired. Glad nothing I need to do tomorrow except stay home and get a few piles reduced.
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Tuesday, December 11
Got a call this morning from the home. She said not to drive up to fill out paperwork for his VA medical records. We can do that later. The important thing is the records from the primary care physician. I told her we would see him on Friday and she requested that we have him fax the information. They can review it next week and may be able to check him in by the end of the week.
I had not thought it would be so soon. Feel a bit out of it. Wait ! Slow down !
I guess sometime next week we will be taking Cowboy over and doing a ton of paperwork and getting him checked in.
I have asked to put his name in his clothes for laundry. We will need to bring him an easy chair and a TV and things to dress up the room.
There are things here at home that I have been dawdling around about, like getting my Christmas cards out. Wrapping gifts. Better get with the program. (I usually have them out right after Thanksgiving.)
I have a headache.
I had not thought it would be so soon. Feel a bit out of it. Wait ! Slow down !
I guess sometime next week we will be taking Cowboy over and doing a ton of paperwork and getting him checked in.
I have asked to put his name in his clothes for laundry. We will need to bring him an easy chair and a TV and things to dress up the room.
There are things here at home that I have been dawdling around about, like getting my Christmas cards out. Wrapping gifts. Better get with the program. (I usually have them out right after Thanksgiving.)
I have a headache.
Monday, December 10, 2012
Monday, December 10
Saturday was one of those rare days that I didn't get up til about 8:30. It was lovely. Even the dog stayed in bed. Cowboy didn't get up til 10. We had a late breakfast, we will call it brunch.
I called the kids Sunday. Talked to all but one of them. They now know that we are looking into getting Cowboy into the home fairly soon. There is sadness and some frustration because it wasn't planned for quite so soon. After thinking about having the private room I cannot imagine not going ahead to give him the best situation for him.
This morning we got up and took Cowboy to have blood drawn. Then I took him to McDonalds and then to CVS to pick up some things. I was going to go to the grocery for a couple of things but I just didn't want to worry with Cowboy.
This afternoon the band met and we played Christmas music for awhile and then had wine and appetizers. Very nice time. I made deviled eggs, chips and dip, meatballs and the others brought some food. I am still working on the wine.
We are going to try to go get Cowboy's VA medical records tomorrow.
It has turned really cold so I put the pansies and our succulents up close to the house. Am going to try to find something to cover them here in a bit.
Cowboy sat at the table with us and ate some of the food. It is serving as our supper.
I called the kids Sunday. Talked to all but one of them. They now know that we are looking into getting Cowboy into the home fairly soon. There is sadness and some frustration because it wasn't planned for quite so soon. After thinking about having the private room I cannot imagine not going ahead to give him the best situation for him.
This morning we got up and took Cowboy to have blood drawn. Then I took him to McDonalds and then to CVS to pick up some things. I was going to go to the grocery for a couple of things but I just didn't want to worry with Cowboy.
This afternoon the band met and we played Christmas music for awhile and then had wine and appetizers. Very nice time. I made deviled eggs, chips and dip, meatballs and the others brought some food. I am still working on the wine.
We are going to try to go get Cowboy's VA medical records tomorrow.
It has turned really cold so I put the pansies and our succulents up close to the house. Am going to try to find something to cover them here in a bit.
Cowboy sat at the table with us and ate some of the food. It is serving as our supper.
Friday, December 7, 2012
Friday, December 7
I got Cowboy up this morning and we drove to the VA clinic to try to get his medical records. Was told we need to go to the larger office in another town about 40 minutes away. Will have to plan to do that on another day.
I took Cowboy to IHOP. We were seated right next to a large group of high school kids who were extremely noisy and couldn't even hear outselves think. and it took awhile to get our food. It was the most unpleasant visit to IHOP have ever had.
Came home and kind of relaxed. Tonight a player in the dulcimer group picked Cowboy and me up which really helped a lot. We played for two hours at the local history museum. The whole downtown was lit up and all the stores were open and lots of people about. The temperature was in the 60's and it was a lovely night. I was really tired by the time we finished and my hand hurt something fierce. Just can't do 2 hours very easily. It went really well, lots of traffic and a nice night.
Cowboy was really tired when we got home and he went right to bed. It was about 8:30 I think.
I am kind of wound up but plan to go to bed soon. Watched "Blue Bloods", one of my favorite shows, checked email and am sitting here looking at about 5 piles of stuff. I keep trying to get organized and keep coming up short.
Tomorrow we can sleep as long as we want and I plan to do laundry. Need to get with the kids and figure out Christmas plans. I don't know what they need to look like given the new information I got this week. But we do need to talk.
I took Cowboy to IHOP. We were seated right next to a large group of high school kids who were extremely noisy and couldn't even hear outselves think. and it took awhile to get our food. It was the most unpleasant visit to IHOP have ever had.
Came home and kind of relaxed. Tonight a player in the dulcimer group picked Cowboy and me up which really helped a lot. We played for two hours at the local history museum. The whole downtown was lit up and all the stores were open and lots of people about. The temperature was in the 60's and it was a lovely night. I was really tired by the time we finished and my hand hurt something fierce. Just can't do 2 hours very easily. It went really well, lots of traffic and a nice night.
Cowboy was really tired when we got home and he went right to bed. It was about 8:30 I think.
I am kind of wound up but plan to go to bed soon. Watched "Blue Bloods", one of my favorite shows, checked email and am sitting here looking at about 5 piles of stuff. I keep trying to get organized and keep coming up short.
Tomorrow we can sleep as long as we want and I plan to do laundry. Need to get with the kids and figure out Christmas plans. I don't know what they need to look like given the new information I got this week. But we do need to talk.
Thursday, December 6, 2012
Thursday, December 6
Have been working on my "to do list" this week. Have edited the Christmas card list, handled a pile of mail. etc/ Spent 44 minutes on hold with VA over getting check set up direct deposit, only to be told to go on the web, print off a form, fill it out and mail it in. Only way to handle since I am a "payee" for Cowboy. Good old paperwork in someone's inbasket. So modern and efficient, don't you think?
Had my day out yesterday. Went to the Bed, Bath and Beyond looking for a parafin bath for my; hands. They didn't have it but ordered it for me so will have in a few days. Went to mall. Always try to do that at least once during the holiday season just to soak up some atmosphere. Got as far as Macy's and the food court and realized had to go so had time to buy groceries.
Today I got a call from the home. They have a private room available but must act quickly to secure it for Cowboy. May be months, even years before one becomes available again. I really think Cowboy will be much happier in a private room. He is not a social person and may be stressed sharing a space with someone not of his choosing. I called and moved up his doctor's appointment and labs. We have to get all the paperwork to them ASAP.
I called Blue Cross about our long term care insurance. A private room will run about $1500 more than what the VA will pay for but the insurance will cover the difference. I would have sworn they told me about $500 more when I was in there a few months back but apparently I was wrong. I will have to front the first three months and then should have things covered.
About the time I finished doing those things I just broke down. I was crying and couldn't stop. It just kind of reaches up and grabs me sometimes. I called a friend who came down and I had a drink and just talked for while. It helped a lot.
Cowboy got up this morning about 2AM. I realized it when I heard the TV blaring. He couldn't get the channels changed and just kept upping the volume. I came into the living room and he said "Good morning !". He was dressed and thought it was time to be up. I managed to coax him to go to the front room, set the TV for him, gave him a blanket and went back to bed. Like to have never gone back to sleep. Later I hear the TV in the living room again. Thankfully it was about 7AM so I got up and fixed coffee, etc. He didn't seem to have any idea he had been up for 5 hours.
Had my day out yesterday. Went to the Bed, Bath and Beyond looking for a parafin bath for my; hands. They didn't have it but ordered it for me so will have in a few days. Went to mall. Always try to do that at least once during the holiday season just to soak up some atmosphere. Got as far as Macy's and the food court and realized had to go so had time to buy groceries.
Today I got a call from the home. They have a private room available but must act quickly to secure it for Cowboy. May be months, even years before one becomes available again. I really think Cowboy will be much happier in a private room. He is not a social person and may be stressed sharing a space with someone not of his choosing. I called and moved up his doctor's appointment and labs. We have to get all the paperwork to them ASAP.
I called Blue Cross about our long term care insurance. A private room will run about $1500 more than what the VA will pay for but the insurance will cover the difference. I would have sworn they told me about $500 more when I was in there a few months back but apparently I was wrong. I will have to front the first three months and then should have things covered.
About the time I finished doing those things I just broke down. I was crying and couldn't stop. It just kind of reaches up and grabs me sometimes. I called a friend who came down and I had a drink and just talked for while. It helped a lot.
Cowboy got up this morning about 2AM. I realized it when I heard the TV blaring. He couldn't get the channels changed and just kept upping the volume. I came into the living room and he said "Good morning !". He was dressed and thought it was time to be up. I managed to coax him to go to the front room, set the TV for him, gave him a blanket and went back to bed. Like to have never gone back to sleep. Later I hear the TV in the living room again. Thankfully it was about 7AM so I got up and fixed coffee, etc. He didn't seem to have any idea he had been up for 5 hours.
Monday, December 3, 2012
Monday, December 3
I am falling behind again on my blogging. Sorry about that.
I saw the Doctor on Friday about my hand. It is just arthritis. I was given a regimen of Alleve twice a day, a hot parafin bath every morning, a cream at night. and then she said "If it hurts just don't do it". Well that doesn't work if someone wants to play the fiddle but will try to limit myself. Of course, nearly everything hurts but I am going to try to follow the directions as much as possible. If after 3 months this regimen hasn't helped then we will try shots. If that doesn't work, then surgery (couldn't do that right now anyway while caring for Cowboy). I have high hopes we can get it feeling better without that kind of thing.
There was a neighborhood party Sunday night. We had 83 people there. It was probably the nicest party they have had. I contributed by making dip and calling table numbers. Cowboy sat in a corner and enjoyed lots of folks coming over and talking to him. He ate a good meal too.
Am going around with the VA pay office about our receiving a check rather than direct deposit. The government will no longer issue checks after March. Of course, they messed up and started sending them in the first place. Sat on hold for about 20 minutes and then was referred to a different number. Every time I called it I got the message about being in the que but then I would get cut off. Happened three times. Guess will try later in the week.
Tonight was Bunco. The friend who hosted it this month sent her hubby over to our house and we ordered Cowboy and Jack a pizza.
The VA home calledlate today and asked me to get Cowboy's medical records and a summary report from the doctor and send it to them. Will try to get into that tomorrow.
Time for bed.
I saw the Doctor on Friday about my hand. It is just arthritis. I was given a regimen of Alleve twice a day, a hot parafin bath every morning, a cream at night. and then she said "If it hurts just don't do it". Well that doesn't work if someone wants to play the fiddle but will try to limit myself. Of course, nearly everything hurts but I am going to try to follow the directions as much as possible. If after 3 months this regimen hasn't helped then we will try shots. If that doesn't work, then surgery (couldn't do that right now anyway while caring for Cowboy). I have high hopes we can get it feeling better without that kind of thing.
There was a neighborhood party Sunday night. We had 83 people there. It was probably the nicest party they have had. I contributed by making dip and calling table numbers. Cowboy sat in a corner and enjoyed lots of folks coming over and talking to him. He ate a good meal too.
Am going around with the VA pay office about our receiving a check rather than direct deposit. The government will no longer issue checks after March. Of course, they messed up and started sending them in the first place. Sat on hold for about 20 minutes and then was referred to a different number. Every time I called it I got the message about being in the que but then I would get cut off. Happened three times. Guess will try later in the week.
Tonight was Bunco. The friend who hosted it this month sent her hubby over to our house and we ordered Cowboy and Jack a pizza.
The VA home calledlate today and asked me to get Cowboy's medical records and a summary report from the doctor and send it to them. Will try to get into that tomorrow.
Time for bed.
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